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A Bunch Of Random Blogging & Social Media Rants

It’s been years since I’ve written one of these. I’m doing it this time because there’s a lot of stuff irking me lately regarding blogs I’ve been visiting and social media things that people are doing.

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I love social media. I love interacting with people. But some folks aren’t even trying to be sociable. Frankly, I figure it’s time someone called a bunch of stuff out, even if a few people who might read this are doing these things. Y’all are being irritating, no matter your reason for doing or not doing what you’re doing; did you keep up with that bit of Southern speech? 🙂

These aren’t in any particular order; I figure a bit of “disrupt” won’t hurt, and might even keep some folks reading and learning; I’m all about the learning piece. Here we go!

1. I get it with the captcha, although I hate it with a passion. You’re trying to stop spam; fair enough. Still, two issues with it. The first… why do you have captcha that comes in capital letters but won’t accept capital letters if we put them in? We do that because some blogs have captcha that says it’s case sensitive.

The secondary gripe about this? You hit “reply”, it takes you to the next page that says you got it wrong, then you go back to the page and… what you wrote is gone! Ugh! I’ve taken to copying my posts from this point on because that was irking me more than the captcha, but y’all need to fix this.

One last thing. You put the captcha on there to verify that we’re real people. Why the heck are you also intentionally moderating comments? That’s what the stupid captcha was for wasn’t it? Do you run into a lot of trolls who want to spend time putting in captcha codes so they can call you names and such?

2. I’ve griped often about people who auto DM, or just DM you, when you connect with them on Twitter. At least 99.99995 of the people I connect with on Twitter reached out to me first. Since you reached out to me, in the open no less, why are you so afraid to now talk to me in the open?

That’s not the rant this time however. The rant this time are those people who, instead of sending the DMs, instead send either individual messages to every single person or groups a bunch of people into one post, thanking them for the connection or mentioning them as their top interactors. Almost none of them are doing it on their own; they’ve hooked up with some stupid Twitter app that does it for them.

That’s irritating, to the point that if I’m checking out profiles of people who want me to connect with them and I see their stream has lots of those things, I refuse to connect with them. Sorry folks; your other content might not be so bad but the last thing I need is more blather in my Twitter stream.

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3. This is the year of social media sites changing things that are supposed to make things better… but they didn’t. Let’s see…

Google Plus just changed their format to make it more visually pleasing and, supposedly, easier for us to use. Except they’ve messed up two things that have become quite irksome.

The first is not always accepting links we share on their site. Every once in a while it won’t accept a link from a site it’s always accepted links from before. It makes me think it’s not accepting that link because they’re blocking the site… until I tried sharing the same link on my laptop, which I didn’t upgrade to the G+ new system… and it took it as if nothing had changed.

The second is that previously you could share links or stories with different circles at once, or circles and individuals. With the new system, you can either share it with your circles, the public or individuals; you can’t share with more than one at a time, which means if you want to do that you have to post it multiple times and look like an idiot. You don’t have to do that in the original version… yes, I’ve proven that as well.

Twitter has done a couple of irritating things as well. One is recently taking away the counts we had to see how often our articles might be shared with others. They’ve done that to go to a paid model for those who really want those numbers; it’s not going to be me.

They’ve also opened our direct messages so that people we don’t know can send us garbage. Goodness, there are enough people I connect with who are already auto-DM’ing me, even though my profile asks them not to do that, without now having to see people I don’t know selling to me. At the same time they also set it up so we have unlimited characters in direct messages… okay, I’m not mad at that. lol

LinkedIn also did a few irritating things this year. The first was suckering us into posting articles on their site, sharing it with lots of people, then throttling us back down. I’m presently on a course to see if it changes after having at least 100 articles there. If I don’t see improvement by article 101 I might stop posting and just allow my two blogs that post original articles there to be the only source of new content shared there.

The second was changing how groups work. First, they made all groups private, regardless of whether the owners wanted that or not. Second, they took away the ability to be seen as an influencer in a group, which took away the incentive to participate all that much. The second irritates me more because there aren’t a lot of people participating to begin with, so I loved being an influencer in a few groups. Now it’s not worth my time.

4. In a year when I’ve been trying to figure out more ways to make money online, some days ago I got an email from an affiliate program I was a part of saying they didn’t see their code on my finance site anymore. Actually, I’d totally forgotten about this affiliate, Bidvertise, and couldn’t remember why I removed the code, so I added it back.

Suddenly, the site went wonky after testing it and, after a couple of minutes, I decided to remove it. Maybe that’s why I removed it in the first place. However, all it took was that 2 minutes before Google put the site on a “do not trust” list; sigh… This led me to run all kinds of test software on the site to see if anything had been embedded before I could request a review from Google to get off the list.

I’m happy to say that I was off the list about 4 hours after I sent my review request; whew! But it’s made me become more wary of adding javascript code to my sites without reviewing better the kind of ads it puts on them. I mean, things were popping up all over the place; that was freaky.

5. Also in the last week, I started looking at my statistics a bit better; at least trying to.

The first thing was looking at Google Analytics. Have you ever checked your referring site? I had a few I not only didn’t recognize, but they said they were sending me lots of people. However, the minutes were at zero and a bounce rate of 100%. It turns out there are sites that use yours to promote their own sites without your knowledge, and it sends you false visits; ugh.

It’s known as referral spam, and I learned how to take care of it from a site called Megalytic. Actually, it shows you how to set up filters so you can see the actual stuff; I’m not sure if there’s a way to get rid of the referral spam for good.

The second thing was loading an add-on program called SEO Doctor that was recommended on some other site… the name of which I forget now. Actually, it worked great… until I started visiting a few blog sites and started getting requests to sign into their routers and having difficulty getting out of them. I had to shut that bad boy down, since it started around the same time I added it; sigh… This is a reminder to everyone that testing something new is imperative!

I think I’ll stop there. I have more gripes but I don’t want all of Monday to be a gripe fest. What’s irking you about social media lately?
 

Of Course We All Look Good On Social Media

Oh, the angst!

Every once in a while I start a post, can’t quite figure out what direction I want to go, and save it to draft. I figured it was time to pull this one out of draft and go ahead and get it written because recently there was something that happened that fits right in with this theme.

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Last week a young and very pretty model who has a major Instagram following decided it was time for her to shut down her account. The reason she gave for shutting down the account is she felt it was telling people a lie about how good and perfect her life was. She said she didn’t feel that way at all, and that social media had turned her into a liar.
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Promoting Ourselves, Our Content, Our Videos… Everything!

You know, I’m good at giving advice. Sometimes people don’t take it. Sometimes they do, and when they do, things always seem to work out well for them. Not that I’m perfect or a know-it-all, but I’m pretty good at analyzing other people’s habits and troubles and helping to find a solution that helps. After all, I am a consultant. lol

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Kind of me lol

Often, people follow my advice… after someone else tells them what I’ve told them. I’ve recommended to some people to start blogs. I’ve recommended to some people that they should be doing videos. I’ve recommended to some people that they should be doing interviews, even podcasts. Eventually they all do it… after someone else tells them after I’ve said it.
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9 Social Media Mistakes People Make

I like this day for some reason so I decided that instead of a very long post like normal I’d address the overall issue of social media… in fewer words than I normally do.

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I have to admit that overall I like social media a lot. I don’t love it… mainly because of the bad things about it that irritates my last nerve! I know I’m not alone on this one, but I figure it’s my list of things so I’ll talk about what I believe are mistakes people in general make.

Two things. One, if you’re not making these mistakes then obviously this isn’t about you, but you can still comment because I’m betting some of these things will irritate you. Two, a couple of these irritate me less than other things, but if folks corrected them we’d all be happier and your online life would be better also. Here we go!

1. Add a picture to your profiles.

Really, who do you think you’re hiding from? If I wanted to I could track 95% of you on a bad day, and others can also. If you’re going to be online and want to talk to people add an image. If you want to do business online add a picture of yourself. Logos are at least something but unless people always know your business they’ll do more business with people they like, and they can’t like you without a picture of you.

2. Stop pushing your sales every chance you get.

I get it; you want to make money. So do I. However, no one buys from people they don’t like or know, and if all they know about you is that you’re selling something they’re not going to buy from you because they don’t know you.

Man wearing a NeuroSky device in the demo pit.

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3. Don’t be a troll.

I hate trolls with a passion. They don’t offer anything worth bothering over, and get their kicks from making others have to deal with them in public. However, sometimes there are unintentional trolls; I came across a lot of them during the 2008 presidential election and dropped lots of people I previously thought I liked online… and never went back. If I did it, others will do it also; trust me on this one.

4. Stop co-opting other people’s messages and threads.

I’ve been putting a lot of content on LinkedIn lately. Some of it is related to health care topics because, when all is said and done, I’m a health care finance consultant. What happens every once in a while is some idiot (aka troll) comes along and drops, in essence, an “it’s Obama’s fault (since I refuse to use the pejorative term for the ACA)… when it has nothing to do with the topic. If you have an agenda, create your own topic and put it there; leave others alone.

5. Stop sharing things that you haven’t verified because they might not be true.

I got into a minor disagreement one night on Facebook because this woman posted something that was blatantly false. She didn’t believe me so I gave her 4 or 5 sources showing her it was false. Instead of believing those she said I was bullying her (she started the thing in my opinion) and would believe what she wanted to believe. If you’re too lazy to check your facts and you get called on it, don’t take it out on the messenger. However, if it sounds outrageous to begin with and you’re posting it… well, just stop doing it.

6. Stop sending stuff out looking for people to participate in something to make you feel good.

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There’s nothing wrong with sharing your stuff with people you know. It’s another thing to share something or create something where, for people to prove how much they care about you, they have to share it or comment or it or do what it says in relation to you. Believe it or not, social media really isn’t all about you… or me (though it should be lol).

7. Know your platforms and what works best on them.

LinkedIn is supposed to be for business. Yet, lately there are a lot of people putting up the same kinds of pictures and jokes that used to be relegated to Facebook, where they actually belong.

LinkedIn is for business. Facebook is for friends & family. Twitter is for immediate engagement. Google Plus is for… well… I’m still not really sure, but I know it’s not for family and not truly for business. But images look great there. lol

8. Just because you like the latest and greatest thing doesn’t mean you need to keep trying to get me to join all of them.

There was a time when I could keep up with all the latest social media platforms, apps and the like; not anymore. Truthfully, I don’t care all that much about them; when I’m ready I’ll find what I need and move on from there. However, I get tons of email from people I know (and some I don’t think I do) introducing me to the newest thing and inviting me to join them there. You know what; write about it on your blog, and I’ll eventually see it.

9. Every once in a while share someone else’s content, comment on their blogs, and talk to them.

I love Twitter because I get to talk to new people all the time. Yet, there are a lot of people I reach out to that never respond. The same happens here and there on LinkedIn and Facebook and even Google Plus. Thing is, I almost never connect with anyone first; people connect with me, I evaluate and make a determination if I might have some common interest with them.

I also try to share what other people do in some fashion. I share things on most of the social media platforms, or I comment on LinkedIn articles and definitely on blogs. Hey, they don’t call it SOCIAL media for their health! If you’re not going to engage, if you’re not going to share… get off social media because you’re not worth the time of the rest of us. Yeah, I said it! lol

There, 9 things… of course, it turned out to be much longer than I anticipated. That’s how it goes sometimes. So, comment, then share, and I’ll see what I can do for you as well. Have a wonderful day.
 

Do You Know Chris Brogan?

A few days ago I was listening to a podcast where my buddy Richard Rierson had conducted an interview with Chris Brogan. I felt good for two reasons; one, I knew Richard had always wanted to interview him and two, he had interviewed me first, although that either means he valued what I had to say a lot or Chris was much harder to get than me. lol

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Either way, as I listened to the interview I came to realize just how little any of us can know about someone else, even if we’ve read their books, read their blogs, seen their videos or had them comment on one’s blog not just once but twice. 😀

In any case, he’s a fascinating guy to listen to and see what he has to say. But this isn’t a puff piece about him; not at all. In taking a break from this week’s marketing test (click here in case you haven’t been paying attention) I thought I would talk about two takeaways from the interview he did with Richard and one I got from him somewhere else some years ago… one that I think is interestingly important since I keep saying that when I grow up I want to be rich and famous.

1. You’re never as famous as you might think you are.

Chris was asked by someone what it was like having so many fans online. He said that he didn’t take it all that seriously because in his own hometown he can walk down to the local coffee shop, get coffee and possibly something to eat, and no one there knows who he is. He can pretty much go anywhere where he lives and not have people running up to him because they want his autograph.

Before I’d read that line I hadn’t had it crystallize in my mind but it’s an absolutely true statement. My friend Kelvin asked me a couple of weeks ago if I listened to any new music because I’ve never been on Pandora. I told him I had years of music from the period of music I loved so I didn’t need any of it, but if something hit me from out of the blue that I liked I’d deal with it then.

Overall, I have no idea who most of today’s young musicians are. There are a couple of names I’ve heard whose music I’ve never heard so I couldn’t comment on any of it. The same goes for TV and movie celebrities; don’t even think about asking me about anything “reality” related. For that matter, I don’t know who 98% of all athletes are either, even on my favorite teams (Syracuse University basketball is the lone exception).

Thus, if I were working in a hotel and someone who thought they were all that said to me “Do you know who I am?”, I’d probably say “no”, mean it and move on. See, as much as I’d love to be rich and famous, the truth is that the only shot I have at it is to entice a specific group that’s interested in what I have to share, and only that group, and hope that I could get at least 33% of them to know who I am and trust me enough to listen to me and buy from me. Heck, maybe all it would take would be 20%; who knows?

Overall, we can’t believe in our own importance when it comes to others. Be comfortable in your skin and put yourself out there, but don’t believe that almost anyone other than your mother is losing sleep wondering anything about you; isn’t that sad?

2. Business is personal.

In his interview with Richard, Chris threw out this gem and my eyes lit up. That’s because I’ve always believed this was a truth, even though most people you talk to in business will say it’s not.

Here’s the thing. I’m an independent consultant, and I spend a lot of my time reaching out to people in different ways. Sometimes I don’t expect to be contacted back because it’s typical sales; in other words, if I’m calling someone out of the blog and leave a message on an answering machine, there’s no obligation to call back because they don’t know me from Adam (have you ever wondered which Adam that phrase is talking about?).

If someone has reached out to me first, I return the correspondence, and then they don’t contact me again… or not for weeks at a time… that’s personal. Someone might say that’s business but it’s not; you reached out to me, I responded… it’s personal.

I’ve had some people tell me I’m too sensitive sometimes, that things happen in business. Bah! People who treat others like that when it’s business related do the same thing outside of business. Whereas it’s easy enough to change behavior from work to personal, it’s much harder to change patterns. I evaluate people in business the same way I do in my personal life, and my patterns are intentionally the same as it relates to business and my personal life. Anyone paying attention to their behavior would see they do the same.

So… on this one… I’d ask more people to consider it and the way they treat others when they believe it’s just “business”.

3. No successful person is a copy.

This came out of the interview with Richard as well, and it resonated greatly with me. I have a friend who says that one of my problems is that I keep trying to do things my way instead of just doing what someone else has already done. My response to that is we can’t always follow what someone else did exactly and expect the same results. Times change, factors change… we should take the best that someone has to offer and make it a part of who we are without losing who we are.

All of us are unique; that’s just how it goes. We can take lessons we learn from others and apply them to our life, but at the end of the day we can only be the best “us” that we can be. Think about the 5 most successful people you know, either personally or not. You might see qualities in each of them that are similar, but for the most part you’ll realize every single one of them is totally different and succeeded because of those differences. We can learn perseverance from them; we can’t learn to be them.

I’m thinking these are 3 pretty good lessons. Course, what I say doesn’t always matter so I’ll put it out to you and your thoughts.