Why I Try To Help

Back in June of 2001 I decided it was time to try to work for myself. I was tired of losing jobs because of things that weren’t within my control. On June 24th of that year I went and registered myself as a business with New York state and was on my way to a bit of independence.

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In October of that year I was kind of in recovery mode. I’d had one short gig, given a presentation on leadership in Ohio, my first live presentation, but was mentally still in recovery from what happened on September 11th of that year. I was starting to realize that I wasn’t really sure what to do; after all, when you work in most hospitals in the country there’s not really much advertising going on because most markets only have one hospital. Also, the business of health care is much, much different than any other, although at the time I was trying to be a consultant/trainer in the area of leadership and diversity; I still had no idea how to proceed.

I floundered for about a year after that, first learning of my dad’s cancer diagnosis, then attempts at stemming the tide, which were to no avail. I finished writing my first book Embrace The Lead so Dad would have some time to read some of it before he’d get to the point where he couldn’t do it anymore. Then he passed away and, though it actually took me years to recover from it, initially I was out of it and didn’t care much about anything.

By October of 2002 I was ready to try to get back to work, but I didn’t have a clue how to proceed. The first year, which turned out to only be months, had confused me and I just didn’t know what to do; didn’t know where to go.

Then I got a break. I heard about a meet and greet event at the Syracuse Chamber of Commerce (it goes under a different name now) and decided to check it out. There were a lot of people there and I did my best to press some flesh, if you will. However, the coup I walked into was grabbing the last remaining copy of the Chamber directory, which listed every single member. I figured this would give me a chance to find some people I might be able to talk to.

After a couple of days I’d marked all the people I was going to call. None of them were in my field, but all were either listed as consultants or sole proprietors. This was my first foray into cold calling, but since I wasn’t trying to get any business it was pretty easy to proceed.

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If I thought this was going to be easier than prospecting, I was out of my mind. Instead of finding some souls who might talk to someone new to the business, not a single person would talk to me. At least 3 of them said that I could be competition some day and that it wouldn’t benefit them to talk to me; what the hey? There was only one person who talked to me longer than a minute, and he invited me to a meeting that would eventually lead me to join an organization called the Professional Consultant’s Association of Central New York. All these years later I’m not only a member but I’m on the board, I’m the manager of the website and the main blogger on the site; some things never change do they? lol

That first meeting was illuminating, and not only did I become a member but I made a resolution on that day that whenever anyone contacted me and asked me for business advice, even if it was in my areas of expertise, that I was going to help them out. Although many people don’t believe me when I say it, I don’t believe anyone is my competitor. If there were myself and 9 other people who presented the exact same material to 100 people, each of us would walk away with at least a couple of clients. It might not be totally equal at the end, but it would prove that everyone has an audience, someone who’s ready to listen to them for advice over someone else.

That’s why over all these years I’ve worked to give advice and help people out, when I’m not trying to entertain them. From the 5th post I wrote on this blog talking about SEO & natural search through my Saturday post on ways business blogging can help, I’ve tried to offer a lot of help on the concepts of blogging and writing, SEO, social media and a host of other things. Sure, I deviate here and there, and I’ll go way off script with posts like talking about favorite children’s stories, but for the most part I’m trying to be helpful; why else would I have written a monster post on mobile speed and detailed all the steps I took unless I was trying to be helpful? It’d be much easier eating cake (mmmmm, cake….).

I’ve been a helper all my life; my wife used to always call me Dudley Do-Right but has appreciated that I’m always trying to do the right thing. I know I’m not alone in trying to help people; after all, there’s Donna and Ileane and Kim and Steve and Suzie and Dana and Chuck and a host of other people who, while trying to also get business, are in the game of helpfulness.

All of us are trying to give back in our own way, and we hope to inspire others to do the same type of thing. Think about your life for a moment; are you trying to be helpful to anyone? Will you be helpful to anyone today?
 

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8 comments on “Why I Try To Help

  • I have had my share of helping others but now in the autumn of my life I find that there is less need to and also hardly anybody who wants help from me. There are some friends who use me as a sounding board, but other than that, I find that a lot of people help me around!
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    • You’re still helpful in your own way Rummuser. I’m betting your review of the movie Pink helped some people decide whether to go see it or not. There are many different ways people can be helpful… even if they don’t think of it that way.

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  • Hey Mitch,

    You’re awesome – and I thank you for including me in your post.
    I think you come across as a very helpful person. You clearly have a big heart.

    I think a lot of us mean well with regard to our work. This is why blogging is so cool. We get to add a personal touch to what we have to offer and our authentic voice comes through.

    It’s clear you’ve learned some valuable lessons from the school of hard knocks. This is what makes you relatable.

    Thanks again for the mention. Glad I know you, Mitch 🙂

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    • Thanks Dana, and I’m glad to highlight you as someone who tries being helpful to others. Course I could have done without those hard knocks, but I guess that would have made me a much different person. 🙂

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  • Hi Mr. Dudley Do-Right 🙂

    I consider myself a helper and find pleasure in helping others. Generally, I help people without expecting anything in return. A simple thank you will do me, but when I don’t even get that, I get a little upset. Lately, I’ve noticed that there are some people who only talk to me so that I can help them. Glad I’m getting better at reading those kinds of people.

    It always pay off being helpful because what we do for others does come back to us in some way or another.

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    • LOL! That’s the way I see things. I’m always trying to help, and often I don’t feel like I get anything in return from those folks, but know that I’ll get something in return later from the universe… and I always do. We just gotta be what we are. 😉

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  • Hi Mitch,

    You are ALWAYS helpful and that is what attracted me to you and your blog. Your sense of humor is amazing and there is an immediate connection. Maybe because I’m one of those givers too lol.

    But giving without expectation is a blessing. Living that way makes one peaceful and fulfilled in life me thinks.

    Thanks so much for the mention, I appreciate it.

    -Donna

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