Cleavage; Yeah, I’m Going There!
Posted by Mitch on Jan 29, 2010
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You see that image there to the left? Every time I’m on Facebook and I go to play this game called Lexulous, that is the first image that pops up when I go to play a game. It’s an ad for a dating service, which proves to me and everyone else that Facebook really isn’t targeting ads to anyone in particular sinse my Facebook profile shows that I married. However, that’s not what I’m here to talk about. I’m here to talk about the image more than that ad. What’s the first thing you notice in the ad? Cleavage!
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Yep, I’m about to tackle the subject of cleavage. I figure we might as well talk about it, because it’s everywhere we go. Guys, we’re just inundated with it pretty much 24/7. It doesn’t even take a lot of cleavage to pull our eyes over there. I don’t think that this makes any of us perverts by any means whatsoever. My wife even says it’s just pretty much “eye candy”, and she would be someone who knows. Let’s just say that my wife could give most of these women a run for their money, but instead has decided to always wear clothes that cover up her cleavage as much as possible.
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I put it that way because in reality there is no hiding what she’s got. Over the years, I have taken to following my wife by a few steps as we walked through malls and places where there are a lot of people. I do that because I love watching people, but I also love watching the reaction that people have when they see my wife. She’s one of those people who makes you smile all the time, but when it’s warm and she’s only wearing a shirt or sweater, even women will take a look at her chest. I have seen women frown and get this look on their face as though she’d done something wrong, then notice I’m looking at them and suddenly turn their heads away. Women get really strange when they see other women’s cleavage, as if it’s something that’s evil.
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Not us guys though. We try not to acknowledge it, but the truth is if it’s out there we’re going to take a look. It’s not that we go out of our way most of the time, but it’s there. I’ll tell you this truth, though you may not believe me. I didn’t notice my wife’s chest when I met her because she kept it covered up. It probably wasn’t until two weeks later when I went to a party and she was dressed a little bit differently that I noticed it was there. I am not someone who’s predisposed to look at women’s chests, instead preferring to look at women’s eyes. However, when it’s blatantly out there and thrown in my face (so to speak), I’m probably going to look. I’m not going to stare, but I’m definitely going to look.
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When it comes to cleavage, we guys are not necessarily discriminating. Most of my friends are women, and for the most part I never pay attention or notice what they’re chest look like. And yet, every once in a while you catch your female friends wearing something that’s either low-cut enough so you see cleavage, or loose enough so that when they bend over you can’t help but notice the cleavage. That’s not our fault either, and I’m not saying it’s the women’s fault, I’m just saying that suddenly your eyes are drawn to it and you have to look. And it doesn’t have to be a lot of cleavage either; we guys will pretty much look at anything.
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I really think we’ve been conditioned to this kind of thing over time. When you think about it, throughout history bodices have always been highlighted by high society. When women used to wear corsets, the basic idea was to make the waste as tiny as possible so that the cleavage stood up. Bodices were cut low to help cleavage pop out of the top. These days, we have a lot of entertainers who are showing a lot of cleavage, whether they have a lot of talent or not. I think we can look at pop icons such as Britney Spears and Jessica Simpson and debate about whether we pay as much attention to them as we do because of their voices or because of how they look. And it’s obviously not just singers, especially if you take a look at this picture of Selma Hayek. I mean, homegirl’s got it going on, and as pretty as she is I think we would all notice her anyway. But wearing something like what she’s got on here, it’s just hard to take your eyes off of that.
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For you ladies who are reading this, I’m wondering how honest you will be with us on this topic of cleavage. Let me preface this by saying that most of my life my friends have been women. I have been privy to some inside information that most guys don’t ever get to hear. I have had some of my women friends tell me that they know the effect that they have on men based on some of the clothes that they wear. They’ve often said to me “I wouldn’t be wearing this if I didn’t want anyone to look at me.” I’ve also heard that there is a rule that says, for the most part, that it’s okay for women to show cleavage as long as they’re holding back on showing everything else. Personally, I think it’s a very strange rule, and I’m not sure I’m buying it all that often, but in general I’m going to let it go because I’m probably going to look anyway.
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A part of this goes back to the old question “does sex sell?” I think it depends on what is being sold. Obviously sex appeal sells a heck of a lot of records. I don’t know if sex appeal sells movies all that well. I don’t know any guy who’s thinking about a woman whose body they think is outstanding that says “I’m going to see this movie because so-and-so’s got an incredible body.” When it comes to television, I’m not so sure. I don’t know a single guy who initially said “I’m going to watch Ghost Whisperer because it looks like an interesting show.” But I know a lot of guys who watch it after the fact, and I’m betting what got them to watch it in the first place was the fact that Jennifer Love Hewitt has one of those bodies and is often showing off some of that cleavage.
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I’m going to say this in closing. America, good or bad, has a thing about women’s bodies. Even those who decry the fact that women might be dressing too sexily are watching them. There’s no getting away from cleavage, and frankly I’m not even going to try. My general thought is that women can wear anything they want to, as long as they retain a little bit of reality about it. Some of my women friends have said to me that they want guys to look at them, but not all guys. My response has always been you don’t get to make that decision. That’s just the way it is; if you’re out and about and you’re dressed in that fashion and people look at you, deal with it and move on.
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And that’s what I’m going to do with this post about cleavage. I think it’s time to move on and see what some of you have to say about it, and I’m betting that Sire is really going to enjoy this post, if only for the pictures. Is this post salacious? It might or might not be depending on your reaction to it. For me, it’s just another topic to talk about as we head into the weekend. And, like I said, I’m not mad at anybody.
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Never Saw It Coming
Posted by Mitch on Jun 14, 2008
Sometimes you see something where else that only posting a trackback won’t do. Instead, I’m going to post this little humorous video for you and also give props to the Virtual Voyage blog I first saw it at (which has now been discontinued). If this doesn’t make you laugh or feel good, you’ve lost your funny bone:
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