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Reacting To Potential Negativity

We all have to deal with the negativity of others from time to time. That’s just how life is; nothing stays perfect for long, if it ever reaches perfect.

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Something I’ve always recognized, yet haven’t handled as well as I wish I had, is that sometimes the negativity I experience is more my perception of what someone else has done rather than their intention. Let me explain by using an example.

I have a friend I went to college with who was also my roommate in senior year. He’s a funny guy and we’ve always had a lot of fun together. However, he also has a mean streak that sometimes irritates me; he rarely used it on me, though it was back in college. He’s not the kind of guy who necessarily sees the best in people; some folks just have to live their lives like that unfortunately, but usually his heart is in the right place.

Every once in awhile he’ll comment on something I put on Facebook, as it’s the only social media thing he cares about. Sometimes the comment is relatively normal. Sometimes it seems, well, spammy, based on what we would consider as spam in blog comments. When he does that I get really irritated, and one day on the phone I asked him why he does that sort of thing. His response; he thinks it’s funny.

Here’s the thing. No matter what he says or how he says it, I’m responsible for my reaction to it. I know the guy, more than 30 years, and I know what he’s like. In person, if he said something I’d just look at him and move on. But online, sometimes I work too hard on protecting my reputation in public spaces when there’s nothing to protect. At least not so much that I need to get upset about it; who agrees with that statement?

It’s in that vein that I decided to do the video below because this past week I’ve been watching a lot of videos on YouTube that weren’t from my normal channels and I’ve been amazed at some of what I’ve seen and how people have reacted to it. Sometimes we really can learn something from young people.

After the video I’d like to know how you respond to negativity of others, both in public and online. I’m working on it and I’m getting better, but I’m not quite there yet; I have 50 years of stuff to work on. 🙂



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jtMN7e0HVMA

 

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Some Blog Posts Deserve More Time

Those of you who visit this blog often know that I often have a new post every 2 to 3 days. I always have something I want to talk about so writer’s block isn’t a problem I have. Sometimes even I have things that get in the way of keeping up a heavy blogging schedule because not only do I have the 5 blogs to keep up with but, as an independent consultant, every once in awhile I need to concentrate on other things for awhile to bring in some cash so I can play around for awhile.

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The gap this time around had nothing to do with either of those, although I’m writing this from another city in a hotel room with a relatively slow “high speed” internet connection. But it’s free so I’m not overly complaining.

Many of you saw my last post titled Don’t Be Bullied About Your Blog Or Web Space; if you didn’t see it please check it out and the blog and video that’s linked to it. In my opinion it was a post that deserved to have some time to catch on without a lot of other stuff getting in the way. I could have had a post ready to go the next day or two days afterwards, but the way I saw things it would have done a great disservice to the post.

Here’s two realities. The first is that if you write more you get more traffic. A few years ago I tried an experiment where I wrote 2 posts a day for two weeks. My traffic jumped nicely, and I proved my point. I also proved another point; the traffic I got for one post was different than the traffic I got for another post. That means those posts got almost no comments, even from people who were regular visitors. Thus, I didn’t quite get what I wanted even though I got what I wanted; you get that?

The second reality is that sometimes you have to step back and let a post germinate. When that happens, when you really touch a nerve, you can end up getting more traffic from one post in a particular week than you might get from combined posts.

In a 2-week span the post I linked to above got more visitors than the next three posts combined. Only one other post in the top 10 had people staying longer, and it was a pretty long post that also had a video at the end, but I wasn’t in that video, although I wouldn’t have griped much if I had been because the ladies in that video were pretty attractive. 🙂

Sometimes you have to recognize when you write something that you feel might be important, or you have to be cognizant in paying attention to how a post is being received and decide to hold off on when you want your next post to go out. The way I see it, that post had some legs, needed some time for its momentum to play out a bit, get some comments, and then be ready to move on. I think at this point it’s had its run, even though it’s still getting comments. And people have been supportive of my friend, so much so that a lot of you have gone to her blog and made comments; thanks for that, as it proves that we bloggers really are a community that looks out for each other.

Have you paid attention to your blog posts to recognize when one might need more time? What about posts that need less time; have you ever thought about that as well? Let me know; meanwhile, enjoy the rest of your week!
 

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Don’t Be Bullied About Your Blog Or Web Space

Well, I’m on a two-day “mad” if you will, and it’s something that really has nothing to do with me. A couple of days ago I was alerted to the fact that one of my local blogging friends was bullied by this guy who owns a gym. In my opinion he’s been bullying her since the first day she showed up but I think she missed it.

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Anyway, the main thing he bullied her about was writing about his place in her blog. He told her if she wrote about the gym he’d ban her from coming. The reason she went in the first place was because the gym misrepresented what it did and, in my mind, the guy was worried that if she wrote about it he’d be discovered.

After awhile he went too far, she got upset, and she both wrote about it and did a video. Her name is Reneè and her post is titled The Wrong Way; I hope you visit it, read it, and offer her some support because this could have been you.

Anyway, I’m obviously writing about it here, I wrote about it in this week’s Hot Blog Tips Newsletter, and I did the video below, which I’m going to share in multiple spaces. No one has the right to bully people for what they do in their own space as long as they’re not intentionally hurting someone. You’ll see how she was bullied and insulted in her blog post so I’m not going to repeat what he said, but I’m thinking that he probably wouldn’t have dared say it to another man. Obviously homeboy has no idea what the power of social media can do; he’s going to find out real soon, as I’ve done my part. As I said, I hate bullies.

I hope you watch the video below and I hope you like it, share it, comment on it and this post, and help spread awareness about bullies trying to stop people from doing what they want to do on their blogs and in social media.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vT25XC9SHMQ

 

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30 Questions About Music I Like

This post is a bit of fun, as the British like to say. It started with this guy Lamarr Wilson who mentioned that he saw a Tumblr post of someone (he mentions the guy but didn’t link to it) who had 30 questions on music and that he wanted to answer some of them for his video post. He tackled 10 of them, doing a bit of performing for each of them as well. Then Brian Hawkins of Hot Blog Tips sent me a video of a lady named Tomeka Haywood who did a video response to Lamarr’s video.

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I thought about doing a video as well, since I’ve been doing a lot of videos lately, but decided that I’d rather write down my responses to all 30 questions instead for two reasons. One, if I performed or even talked about all 30 of these questions that could take awhile, and I don’t feel like only answering the ones I like necessarily. Two, I’m not performing any of them, thus why do it as a video? I’ll get better use out of doing it as a blog post; at least I hope so.

This is the kind of thing that bloggers can do to have fun every once in awhile and add a bit of content to their site. Some might say it takes away from one’s niche but come on… what’s the niche of this blog anyway? So, here we go, with explanations if I’m in the mood, but expect a lot of songs involving Michael Jackson here.

1: A song you like with a color in the title

Little Red Corvette, Prince

2: A song you like with a number in the title

The One, Elton John

3: A song that reminds you of summertime

Dancing Machine, Jackson Five (came out summer of 1975)

4: A song that reminds you of someone you would rather forget about

Feelings, Morris Albert, although it’s the guy I’d like to forget about as well as the fact that such a lame song hit #1

5: A song that needs to be played LOUD

Get Down Tonight, KC & the Sunshine Band

6: A song that makes you want to dance

Shake Your Body To The Ground, Jacksons

7: A song to drive to

Walk Away, Donna Summer

8: A song about drugs or alcohol

The Piano Has Been Drinking, Tom Waits

9: A song that makes you happy

I’m using this one to answer the question “what’s my favorite song”, that being I Want You Back by the Jackson Five

10: A song that makes you sad

Sometimes It Snows In April, Prince

11: A song that you never get tired of

I Love The Nightlife, Alicia Bridges

12: A song from your preteen years

Sugar Sugar, The Archies

13: One of your favorite 80’s songs

Billie Jean, Michael Jackson

14: A song that you would love played at your wedding

The song I did play at my wedding as our first dance song, How Deep Is Your Love by the Bee Gees

15: A song that is a cover by another artist

Knock On Wood, Amii Stewart’s cover of a song by Eddie Floyd

16: One of your favorite classical songs

Habanera, Carmen

17: A song that you would sing a duet with on karaoke

I actually performed this song with someone at a wedding, Endless Love by Lionel Richie & Diana Ross

18: A song from the year that you were born

Charlie Brown by The Coasters

19: A song that makes you think about life

Man In The Mirror, Michael Jackson

20: A song that has many meanings to you

Keep The Faith, Michael Jackson

21: A favorite song with a person’s name in the title

Gloria, Laura Branigan (only because I already used Billie Jean lol)

22: A song that moves you forward

2 Legit To Quit, MC Hammer

23: A song that you think everybody should listen to

A relatively new song, Unwritten by Natasha Bedingfield

24: A song by a band you wish were still together

Happy Together, The Turtles

25: A song by an artist no longer living

Remember The Time, Michael Jackson

26: A song that makes you want to fall in love

Bring It On Home To Me, Sam Cooke

27: A song that breaks your heart

I Don’t Wanna Miss A Thing, Aerosmith (cursed Armageddon movie…)

28: A song by an artist with a voice that you love

You Raise Me Up, Josh Groban

29: A song that you remember from your childhood

ABC, Jackson Five

30: A song that reminds you of yourself

Home, Stephanie Mills

That’s all I’ve got. Comment below, or write your own post I share with us.
 

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5 Reasons You Need To Have A Gravatar

Funny how time flies. Turns out it was 4 1/2 years ago that I actually wrote my last piece on gravatars, how to create them, how to set your blog up to show them, etc. What I missed in that piece all those years ago was why anyone should have them. I guess I thought that would be obvious, but time has proven that no, most people still don’t get it. So, let’s look at 5 reasons why you need to have a gravatar.

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Which one is me? 🙂

1. Identity – Having a gravatar gives you an identity and helps you stand out from all those people people who comment on blogs and don’t have an image of any kind. People are more trusting of you and your comments if there’s an image associated with it.

2. Brand – Although your face should probably be your strongest brand, you can also use a logo of your business for your gravatar image. Truth be told, I have multiple gravatars and each one is associated with a different email address. Each one also uses a picture of me, which allows me to change up from time to time when I’m commenting because people always recognize the face sooner than the website or blog it’s attached to.

3. Protection – I’ve seen times when comments are somewhere that don’t read like the person who’s purported to have written them, if you know that person. Sneaky weasels do that to promote spam, and it can ruin the name or reputation of the person whose information they’re using. However, if you have a gravatar associated with your email address and no image shows up, that could vindicate you. Spammers aren’t as smart as we all think they are; they don’t always know your email address when writing spam comments.

4. Looking good in your own space – You write a blog others comment and have pictures next to their names, and you’re responding with nothing except one of those default gravatar things showing up; how professional does that look?

5. Influence – If you comment often and you have an image associated with your image eventually you start getting better known, and that helps your influence spread on the internet, even if it’s only within your relatively small sphere of influence. People love seeing my face (so they say lol) on their blogs along with a comment or two.

There you are. Now, having a gravatar won’t help you with blog sites like Typepad, but for pretty much everywhere else a gravatar will help you stand out. Come on, what are you waiting for? Check out the first post I linked to if you want to know how to do it, or just go to gravatar.com and follow the very easy instructions. Go now… okay, go after you comment. 🙂
 

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