How Do You Accept Criticism?

Something different than the norm; that’s what I’m all about. What I’ve done today is what I’m calling a two-fer. You’ll see there’s a video below. I not only recorded a second video, which I actually did first, but I also wrote another post on my business blog on the same topic; kind of. The topic over there was Does Your Criticism Help? On that post I gave some ways that people can offer criticism, or advice, to others that’s helpful and positive. On this post I’m going to offer ways to ask people for advice and how to accept criticism, even when it’s bad criticism.

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What’s bad criticism? When there’s nothing positive offered or nothing helpful, it’s bad criticism. Sometimes people don’t know that the criticism they’re giving isn’t helpful, either because they just don’t know how to be helpful or you haven’t helped by telling them what you need. That’s what I’m here to help you with by offering 5 tips you didn’t ask for; hey, you came to the blog didn’t you? 😉
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Verifying Google Authorship

Back in October I talked about Google authorship for the first time. If you follow that link, you’ll see an example of what it can do for you, but for those who are new to this concept, it allows for the possibility of people actually seeing your image next to a search term if it comes up during a Google search. If someone knows you it’s even better, but if not they might visit your link just because there’s a picture next to it. It can enhance your online presence greatly… isn’t that pretty cool?

What I’m finding out is that many people aren’t sure how to do it, or haven’t done it. Goodness, I knew about it, yet I figured out yesterday that I hadn’t completed it for all of my blogs; what a moron! I’d have slapped myself if I could have gotten my hands in the right position. lol

In any case, this is a quick tutorial, and the video below, with my Hot Blog Tips Hangout buddies, will talk more about it and its importance, and you can hear me giving this same advice there if you hate reading everything.

First, you have to have a Google Plus profile; without that, none of this will work. Once you have that, or if you already have that, you come back to your blog and, if you have WordPress software as your platform, you go into your User profile. I’m betting that most of you haven’t been there since you created your blogs. You’ll see what’s below, although in a totally different color:

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Notice that last category saying Google+? You copy your Google profile About page link into this space. This is what G+ will be looking for when it goes to verify that it’s you. If you have multiple writers on your blog, if you enter this for each of them and they put their profile information in it’ll show them in search results as well.

After you’ve done that, go back to your Google profile and look at your About page. It looks like this:

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The email address you have here has to match the email address you have on your blog associated with that blog. If you notice, since I have 5 blogs, I have 5 email addresses. What you don’t see here is the word “verify” next to each email address, since I’ve already done that. You’d click on that word and it will send an email to that address with a link in it. You’d click on that link, then come back to your profile where you’ll see this:

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That’s when you know you’re good to go. It can take anywhere from a week to 3 weeks before your image finally shows up next to your content, but the first time you see it will make you happy. And, if you didn’t go back to that other post, know that during a search your image will only come upon the first post you’re found for, even if you’re showing for all the listings. I guess even Google only wants to see us just so much. 😉

There you go; easy peasy. If you want more, watch the video below; we’re always entertaining:



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Stupid Begats Stupid; Instagram And YouTube

I sometimes don’t understand people. At the beginning of this month I wrote a post and added a video asking the question what’s wrong with being nice. I went at that question in a different way than what I’m going to talk about today, and yet it’s as pertinent to this topic as any other.

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Grant the punk-ass
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Back in December I wrote a post saying how much I loved Instagram, now that it can be accessed through Android. I still love Instagram. What I find is that I don’t necessarily like all the people there.

I love the people following me; thank you to anyone following me there. For anyone who’s not connected with me there I’m mitch9359. I love seeing your pictures and I hope you don’t get tired of looking at all the food pictures I put up.

Occasionally I like to take a quick look at an attractive lady or two; hey, I’m a guy. There’s the page that gives you 15 random photos, and occasionally I take a look. It’s amazing how many likes those pictures get… okay, I guess it’s not so amazing after all. What’s amazing are some of the comments.

I don’t know when it became a legitimate thing to decide that just because someone put a picture of themselves somewhere looking nice that you, some pig, has the right to say what you want to do to that person; you know what’s being said. Or talking about someone’s anatomy as if you know this person and thus have privileges that no one else does. How tasteless and childish can people be?

You know what stupid people? Your name gets highlighted, thus anyone can follow you back to see who you are or what images you’ve put up. I’ve gone this a few times and I have to admit that I’m amazed. It’s not all young punks writing this junk. One was obviously a devout Muslim because all the pictures on his site were Islamic religious icons, and any male was wearing the traditional headdress. So, you’re telling the world that you could care less about your religion because you can demean women anytime you want to, or are you saying that a pretty woman doesn’t matter to you because, since she’s sharing her body, she’s not chaste in your world and thus it doesn’t count?

I saw many other people who were saying the same sorts of things, and yet when you went to their page they made it seem like they were relatively nice people, putting up images that no one would ever think to object to. I really thought for a couple of moments about saying something on some of these pages, but decided I didn’t want to go there.

The same thing happens on YouTube. Stupid idiots will make comments and say all this trash and filth, yet when you visit their pages, for the most part they’re pretty straight. A few of them are as trashy and nasty on their own page, in which case you know there’s nothing much you can do about them. Well, that’s not quite true.

On YouTube, if you care, you can delete comments you don’t like. Not that I get many comments but if some came in with language I didn’t support I’d just up and delete it. On Instagram, you can’t delete comments; at least I haven’t been able to figure out how you can do it if you wanted to. It’s possible you can go online and do it, but I’m just not sure. However, if an image has more than a thousand comments, who wants to go back and read any of that garbage?

I’ve been writing a lot this month about behavior, mostly bad behavior, and maybe it’s a good thing this month is ending. I keep asking is that what we’ve become, and is this really the future of this country and the world, people deciding that no one else’s feelings or sensitivities matter? Let me know. In the meantime I’ve embedded a video from our Hot Blog Tips Hangout on the topic of negative feedback, which I led, that talks a bit more about this same thing:


 
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Fussing About Guest Posters Again

Yes, another minor rant about guest posters, and this time I was so moved that I had to do a video. Therefore, I’m not going to write a long piece, but I am going to say a few things before the video because, after all, just having a video doesn’t help with SEO all that much now does it? 🙂

Annoyed Isaac, Julia - Cocoro
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Here’s the overall deal, if I may. Unless someone specifically asks you to write a guest post for them, whenever you do so it means that if someone publishes your post they’re doing you a favor, not the other way around. Yeah, I know that some people think the owner of the blog is getting something out of it, mainly free content so that they don’t have to write all the posts themselves, but so what.

If you come into my house to paint the walls and you’re going to get something out of it on the back end (maybe not money like a painter but guest posters are getting something), it means you don’t have to clean up when you’re done? You’re going to leave your drop cloths, dirty paint brush, stupid paint tray and tape all over my walls?

In that case, you were called and asked to do something, the rules change some when that happens. But if you called me and asked to paint one of my walls because you wanted to highlight your work, and I agree, does that mean that because you feel you’ve enhanced my space that nothing else counts? When you leave you leave a mess and you never come back?

That’s the basic premise behind what’s in the video, as I address an issue that came up yesterday with someone who wasn’t pleased that I yanked his links from his post when he didn’t fulfill the qualifications of my guest posting policy on my finance blog. People, if you’re looking to promote yourself in someone else’s space, whether it costs you or not, and it leads you to request the right to submit a guest post, follow the rules of the site, plain and simple. And before anyone who’s not familiar with this blog asks, no, I do not accept guest posts from anyone I don’t already know; let’s hope that at least was read. lol

And now, on with the fussing:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UxUkoTMZqx0


 

Post #1,400; Are You Catching Up?

Yup, I’ve finally hit post #1,400, and this is it. I wrote post #1,300 on June 1st of last year, which means it’s taken me 8 1/2 months to write these last 100. That’s the longest it’s ever taken me to write 100 posts, but it was on purpose as I said I was going to slow down some.

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Slowing down doesn’t mean I didn’t stick to my core themes though. Out of those 100 posts I wrote 36 of them on blogging and 16 on social media, while everything else was a nice mix of lots of things. That shows pretty good balance in staying true to the mission of this blog, which is to share whatever I want to share but mainly commenting on things that have to do with being online, mainly blogging.

I’m doing two things differently this time around; always shaking things up. I’m going to post my favorite 5 posts out of the past 100, then I’m going to post my favorite posts from my first year of blogging on this bad boy, for which the period is 12/7/2007 – 12/7/2008, where I wrote 309 posts; I wonder how many of you have written that many posts for the life of your blog. 🙂

I used to have a very rigorous writing schedule for this blog; I also only had 2 blogs back then. Because it was a new thing for me, not really niched, it was both easy and hard to write, and I wrote lots of junk; I can admit that. But I also wrote some stuff that’s evergreen, and I want to share those articles. Comments are turned off though; I now only allow comments for 2 years on my posts, to keep down extraneous spam. But I share them anyway because I know a couple of them offer information that someone might like to know. First, this period’s favorite 3:

Dream It And It Will Come – my most popular post ever, tells the story of a friend of mine who figured out how to follow his dream of visiting 42 states in 2 months and meeting people in person that he’d met online over the years, which included me

I Found A Dream; Now The Goals – my second most popular post ever, following up on the first one by talking about my own dream and goal for the year

10 Blog Tips In 2 Minutes – I wanted to prove that short didn’t mean insufficient, and also to prove I could write short posts lol

11 Lessons Learned From 11 Years In Business – at this point it’s 11 1/2 years, but I highlighted a milestone of mine with some valuable business advice

12 Things For 12/12/12 – I don’t rant often, but this was a combination of a rant and some general thoughts of mine that got way more visits than comments, but that’s okay because to some it could have seemed controversial

That’s not so bad for the last 100 posts is it? Now, my top 10 of my first year of blogging; I hope to keep writing stuff like this as time goes on, because if I say so myself some of it was ahead of its time, and it wasn’t all about blogging lol:

Credit Card Solutions – This is my strangest post because I actually rewrote the post 18 months because a lot of what I originally had on it disappeared. Still, if you want to learn how to handle your credit card creditors, this is for you

Publish Your Own Book – Many people are telling you how to do it now, but back in 2008 I was one of the first, talking about how I published mine

Blogging Step Four – What And How To Write – This was the last installment on my first series on blogging, and I linked back to the previous posts.

Be Responsible For Your Own Life – one of my earliest motivational posts, but certainly not the last

Blog Action Day – Poverty – my first foray into social issues, joining with other bloggers around the world to discuss a subject I personally didn’t live, but lived around people who were living it daily.

The Gurus Don’t Know It All – most of us can’t learn how to make money from these books, videos or podcasts that gurus sell us because they leave stuff out. I confronted a guru & asked him some questions, and 3 years later he’s still never answered them

Book Writing Series – Step One, The Concept – Once again, I was one of the earliest bloggers talking about the process of thinking about writing a book, and this was the first of my series on the subject

World Diabetes Day – My Story – social cause number two, this time sharing the story of how I learned I was diabetic; I hope you’re paying attention to your body’s potential signs

Is Social Media Hurting Your Online Business? – a pointed post that was based on how some people in business, offline and online, lost business and clients because of things they said during the presidential election of 2008, forgetting that just because you believe you have the right to say what you want to say doesn’t mean your potential customers will buy from you or stay with you afterwards, especially if you presented yourself as a jerk

A Point About Commenting On Blogs – goodness, it’s the topic that won’t go away, as I, and others, are still writing posts about blog commenting, or the lack thereof. Guess I’ll have to keep doing it until people get it right. 🙂

There you have it; 1,400 posts down, and hopefully I’ll get to 1,500 before Christmas; yeah, I think that’s a given. Who’s next?