Would You Be Missed?
Posted by Mitch Mitchell on Aug 21, 2010
A couple of weekends ago I took a little test on Twitter. I wanted to see if I didn’t start off engaging anyone if I’d be missed. I did know that one of my blog posts was scheduled to post late morning, but I was curious if anyone would pick up on the blog post or send me anything.
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When I finally looked later in the day I did have messages. A couple of people had retweeted the post. A couple had responded to the post. And one person had written me a welcoming message to the day. I felt pretty good because I think it shows I do have at least a little bit of impact, or influence, online. Of course, my local influence is still nothing, as everyone who wrote me was from somewhere else, but that’s okay; I’ll take what I can get.
Our lives are so much different now than they used to be. In the past, there was some sense of community, of knowing the people who lived in your community. You’d see people in the neighborhood and know everyone’s name. You’d shop at the same stores and see each other there.
Nowadays, we have more ways to communicate with each other, yet instead of spreading the sense of community, for the most part it’s become more restrictive. You only message so many people because you don’t want to pay for extra time if you go over your minutes. We don’t have to leave our homes to go meet people because we can bring people into our homes electronically.
It’s a shame, but that’s pretty much my life. I work from home most of the time, so I don’t have a need to leave the house all that often. I’ve learned that my wife and my elderly neighbors across the street think that I’m getting old before my time because I don’t leave the house. My mind says not to spend money unnecessarily, and that includes gas for my car. It’s less expensive to stay home, so I do. I leave when I have something specific to do; just getting out for the sake of getting out makes no sense anymore.
This leads me to wonder sometimes if I would be missed by many people if something happened to me. If I stopped twittering, left LinkedIn alone, got off Facebook, and pretty much just withdrew would people notice I was gone. Sure, I know a few would; I do luckily have a few friends, and of course my wife, mother and grandmother. I do have my newsletter. But would any of the “masses” really miss me? Would I even have a legacy that someone would say “that was a good guy”. Unless my wife sent something out, and that’s not going to happen, would people reach out and say “hey, where are you”, or would time just move on?
It’s an interesting question. The second question is if you’d want that sort of thing in the first place? As I’ve talked about this concept of influence I’ve thought about the second half of that, which is once you have some influence can you ever have a private life again? Then I came to a resounding “yes”. We had this CEO of Hewitt Packard have to resign and get out of Dodge because of an alleged sex scandal, and I realized that I had absolutely no idea who this guy was, yet one could imagine that his influence had to be pretty high. If it wasn’t for the scandal, he’d have never crossed my mind at all. And yet, because of his influence, his indiscretion (alleged; yeah, right) was big news, and plastered all over the media. Almost Tiger Woods bad, but that kind of thing is hard to top.
Do you think you’d be missed by the masses if you suddenly stopped writing or doing whatever it is you do online? Do you care? Or would you like something mixed, like the treatment Ben Vereen gets from the Muppets in a performance of Mr. Cellophane?
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I think its the same for most of us out there. Unless you are an Authority in what you do and people are relying on you for specific guidance for a specific task in hand I think there are so many people to fill the void.
I must say though if I didnt see a blog post notification come in from you next few days you would be missed by myself
Mitch Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 2:11 PM
As for whether I’d be missed. I hope so, but who can say for sure? I was quite surprised a few months ago to find the blog archive of someone who used to read my first blog (from 2004) and to discover that this person had done a post about my having deleted my blog and how she’d miss me – and she went on to say why. One thing that got me was I’d started using tags to be able to find my own posts (it was kind of before they became the done thing to do) and she noted that I referred to my fun postings as ‘light’ and my serious postings as ‘heavy’ (or something like that). I’d forgotten the tags I’d used myself, so it was kinda nice that someone remembered them – and me!
Mitch Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 2:15 PM
Well, I have vanished from my writing community a few times and have had members write to see where I’ve been. I think I would be missed by some.
Would I be missed on Twitter? Most likely not.
If it is any consultation you know that I ask how you’re doing often.
Mitch Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 2:16 PM
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August 21st, 2010 at 4:41 PM
Mitch Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 7:47 PM
If I dropped dead one day, it wouldn’t matter to me would it?
Mitch Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 11:46 PM
I do occasionally get an email from someone asking where I’ve been- mostly from online communities I’m involved with.
Mitch Reply:
August 22nd, 2010 at 2:14 PM
I think I may not be missed too much in cyber but my family and friends and any who know me in real life, how can I put this without sounding pious, simply adore me. (in all modesty)
Hey Mitch, for the second time in a couple of days – YOU ARE HILARIOUS. I literally laughed three times while reading this. You can ask any of those who think I’m so adorable and they will tell you I am not one who laughs aloud. I will SAY something is funny but not laugh. Thanks for giving me a dose.
Mitch Reply:
August 22nd, 2010 at 5:31 PM
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August 22nd, 2010 at 5:59 PM
Kissie Reply:
August 22nd, 2010 at 6:00 PM
Hey, have you ever seen the movie, The Game. Oh my.
I think that it is tough to measure if one would be missed by dropping out of social media. Like you wrote, before the internet, people would see you face to face and around the community.
The internet, however, is a different story. There are infinite amounts on information/people on the internet. When people have a real life connection I think that people would be missed more. It is for this reason that I am sure that you would be missed at our tweetups if you disappeared.
Also, you have a ton of regular commenters that follow and comment on your blog regularly. There are not many blogs at all that can say they have an active community/following. I think that you are doing great.
To answer your question, I don’t think that I would be missed online, but like you and some other commenters, I think that real life would be a different story.
Mitch Reply:
August 23rd, 2010 at 2:33 PM
Do that and people will notice when you are not around.
Mitch Reply:
August 23rd, 2010 at 5:00 PM
Try doing good in some fashion and you will be remembered; I like that a lot.
As for me, I’m pretty sure no-one would miss my tweets because I don’t tweet all that much.
Mitch Reply:
August 31st, 2010 at 7:52 AM
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August 31st, 2010 at 11:44 PM
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August 31st, 2010 at 11:47 PM
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September 2nd, 2010 at 12:49 AM
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September 2nd, 2010 at 2:40 AM
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September 2nd, 2010 at 3:55 AM
Reports for all my other blogs are way down as well. If results showed zero you would assume I lost the code but it’s tracking visits just not accurately.
Mitch Reply:
September 2nd, 2010 at 9:43 AM