Sometimes the only way you can begin to offer tips on how to do or not do something is to start with a story. This is one of those times, and I hope you hang in through the story so we can get to the tips.
Over the course of just over 8 years of blogging I’ve had 15 guest posts here, the last one in 2013. Except for 2 of them, all the other guest posts were because I asked someone I knew to write about something I thought was pretty interesting.
In this case I’m highlighting my friend Kelvin Ringold, who I’ve mentioned in multiple posts on 3 of my blogs over the years and in many of my videos. Many local people know who Kelvin is, so I figured it was time for him to introduce himself to the other masses by writing a post on his main vocation, which is writing and talking about positivity. I owe this guy for lots of things over the years, so he gets a guest post; for the rest of you, don’t even think about asking. lol Continue reading There’s Power In Positivity – By Kelvin Ringold→
In 2006 the movie The Secret, there was a lot of talk about the overall premise, which is the laws of attraction. I had actually written more specifically about it a day before on my business blog. It’s actually that post that leads me into talking about it today.
I wrote both of those posts in 2009. Over the years, I’ve worked on applying the concepts to many parts of my life. I’ve had some successes with it and some negative things because of it. Yes, I blame both on the laws of attraction, but nothing overly metaphysical, which both the book and the movie alluded to a lot.
To begin with, I do believe in the laws of attraction. I believe it in the way that I believe that good begets good and bad begets bad. In that, I mean that if you think positively about things you bring positivity to you more often than bad, and if you think negatively you bring negativity to you more often than good. Sure, every once in a while something happens that counters each of these things, but based on people’s patterns of thinking they’ll soon go back to the way things were before because, when all is said and done, if you have a pattern of thinking one way you tend to fall back into that pattern without thinking about it.
Whew, that was a mouthful! By now you’re probably wondering where I’m going with this article. If you were paying attention to my little marketing push from last week you know that I talked a lot about changing my business model and asked people to give me their thoughts on what they’d like to learn from me that they might consider paying for.
I went into it knowing that I wasn’t going to get what I was asking for as far as the numbers go. However, that wasn’t the real reason I did it.
I did it because I needed to change my mind’s focus, and in my own way I decided to use a laws of attraction principle to help me do it. This leads me into being able to talk about some specific types of rules concerning the laws of attraction, especially as they pertain to me. So, let’s get started.
1. You must establish a reason for wanting to change.
The reason this part is important is that it helps you to bring focus to what it is you want in your life. Not only that, but the laws of attraction don’t pay as much attention to whether what you’re thinking about is positive or negative, good or bad… just what you’re thinking about more than anything else.
In my case, I decided it was time to think of my business in more positive terms, because I have to admit I’ve been pretty negative about how things have been going over the last bunch of months. So, the reason I wanted to change is because I wanted to work from a positive point of view; who doesn’t want more positivity in their lives? So, I thought about how I wanted a mind shift, and last week was a big part of pushing my thoughts towards the good side of things.
Oh yeah; it’s working. 🙂
2. You want to have a working goal; it doesn’t have to be overly specific.
If you checked out any of last week’s posts on any of my blogs, you saw that I had a lot of options for what I would create as well as options on how I could deliver them. The overall working goal is that I want to create more products and set myself up for doing more live presentations, since my dream is to be a professional speaker when I grow up.
You know, I keep saying that previous sentence over and over but the reality is that I’m already a professional speaker; I’ve just been out of the game for a few years. So, this is a goal that I know is attainable.
The reason you don’t have to be overly specific is, as The Secret mentions, you never really know how things will manifest themselves, no matter how much you put into things. For instance, I could create what I consider to be the perfect package on a specific topic and not sell one because of factors I can’t control. At the same time I could create something that was more work than pleasure that could sell tons.
This means the only thing I can control is the creation of the packages and the delivery system; that leaves a lot to chance. However, we address that with the next rule.
3. Establish something that you “know” will make you happy.
Something I’ve been working on over the past couple of weeks is the language I use when I’m writing on all my blogs. Over the years, I tend to use language that’s not overly forceful or definitive; like this sentence. lol
I’ve always tried to be more realistic in my language and things I say. If I could guarantee something, then I’d say it; otherwise, I’d hedge my bet by saying things like “if you try this thing out you “might” become more proficient…” That’s encouraging isn’t it? Not even close! I’m betting you’d be more impressed if I said “if you do this you will become more proficient…” I actually owe this change in language to something Lynn Terry told me a couple of months ago when I first started marketing my latest book on leadership, Leadership Is/Isn’t Easy.
As soon as I started thinking about creating products based on things I know and working more on getting speaking engagements and doing live presentations… I started feeling happier than I had in a long time. I have a long way to go of course but feeling better means I’m moving in a positive direction… I think I’ve beaten that horse enough already. lol
4. Open your mind to allow outside factors positive access.
Last week I wrote 15 posts, which I distributed between 4 blogs. I offered 9 major topics of discussion and 6 methods of delivery for people to choose from. Yet, something that happened is that 3 people who voted asked for me to deliver a YouTube option, which I hadn’t included.
This kind of threw me off because I’d had problems sharing private videos in the past and hadn’t even tried to broach the subject again. However, since I was asked I decided it was time to do some research to find out how I could do it. I found out it’s a pretty simple thing to do (knowledge is always nice!), so I added it as an option to all the blogs for the final posts.
Learning something new and finding it could work well for me was a very positive experience. If I hadn’t kept my mind open to it then it’s possible that others who might have wanted it that way would have been left out of the loop, I might have hurt sales, and I wouldn’t have learned something that made me smile.
5. You’ve got to do the work!
One of the major criticisms of the movie The Secret is that it seemed to be telling people that all they had to do was think about things and those things would come to them. Well, if one only paid attention to the visuals that’s what they’d have gotten.
Yet, on more than one occasion someone said you couldn’t just sit around thinking about things and hope they’d come. You had to work towards what you wanted, while being open for it to manifest itself in ways you weren’t expecting.
To that end, last week I started working on outlines for two of the things I’m looking to create. I spoke to a few people locally about wanting to put on some presentations… hopefully paid. I got some ideas, but the truth is that I wanted to get a feel for how people thought about me locally; I’ve been out of the game for a long time here.
I also read a book by one of my friends about how to get more paid speaking opportunities. We briefly talked also. I met up with another friend who passed along the name of someone who helps people get speaking gig; yay! And I sold another book as well; yay again!
And, of course, I had 15 posts marketing the topics and concept throughout 4 blogs, but also wrote two other posts, worked on a couple of my websites, and realized that I needed to market my other products and speaking topics more.
You know what? I worked a lot last week, and I plan on working a lot this week… though it’ll probably start either Monday afternoon or Tuesday, as I have a lot of other stuff to catch up on. However, I’m ready to put in the work, and when I’ve finished something… I’m ready to market it.
Those are my thoughts on it all; what are yours? Are you ready to try to do something similar, or are you going to wait around to see what I can do?
I probably can make the connection to the phrase “we are what we eat”, this post isn’t about food, although as I’m sitting here writing this I’m also thinking “I wish I knew where I could get some good cookies besides heading to the store for some mint Oreo’s”. Such is my life. 🙂
As I’ve probably stated multiple times in the last 10 months, I’m presenting working a consulting assignment out of town. This basically means that I’m showing up in an office and working at least 8 hours each day. Because I’m not working in a leadership capacity, it’s basically the same thing every day, and, well, my mind doesn’t work like that because it likes diversity of work. Sure, I get to basically create a lot of my own work, but it’s dull, mundate stuff, though necessary.
The lucky thing about living in the 21st century is that we have all these different things we can take with us to work to watch & listen to, although folks frown on your “watching” stuff per se. However, you can listen to a lot of stuff, and I’ve always enjoyed documentaries so it’s a great time to catch up on a lot of things I’ve never seen. YouTube is a lifesaver… or is it?
I was going along pretty well there for a time until I noticed that my mood had started to change. I wasn’t feeling all that happy mentally, and it was extending outside of the office. Frankly, being out of town all by myself is pretty lonely, and yet I was starting to embrace the loneliness as a shield and didn’t want to bother with anybody, even on the weekends. I wasn’t getting depressed, but I was getting a little bit paranoid.
Then I figured it out. The documentaries I was partaking in were, for the most part, about the darker aspects of human life. There are lots of documentaries on serial killers, gangs, drugs, despots and dictators, death, murder… in other words, there’s lots of negativity that looks like information we all need or might crave.
I liked this stuff because I was learning a lot… of useless stuff. Sure, we all need to be careful of our surroundings and watch out for nefarious characters, but we also need to be ready to enjoy life a bit; wouldn’t you agree?
I decided I had to change up a bit. I started looking for comedians and funny stuff. I started listening to more motivational speakers and those TED talks that are pretty popular. I love Neil deGrasse Tyson so I started listening to everything I could find with him in it, as well as a lot of science stuff, mainly astrophysics; I’ve always been fascinated by things like that.
I also decided to go back and listen to some of my own videos on my two channels, something I really hadn’t done much of because, like blog posts sometimes, once they’re written it’s often on to the next thing. A couple made me cringe, but many of them just made me laugh, even the serious stuff; sometimes even I wonder how I come up with the things I talk and write about.
What happened? I started feeling good again mentally and even the boring work took on a different feel. I found things to laugh about that may have only been funny to me, but it’s a better state of mind than where I was, and truthfully it’s a state of mind that I strive for most of the time.
But I went further than that. There were some people I was following on Twitter who kept up the negative stuff, even if it was stuff I agreed with. I’m a liberal in my politics, but there’s just so much conservative bashing one can take without getting riled up. I don’t follow any conservatives on Twitter, so no problems there.
On Facebook, because of F.B. Purity (come on, y’all aren’t using this yet?), I block a lot of stuff but some gets through via images. If I kept seeing the same thing from certain people I just stopped following them, because my closer friends don’t put that stuff out all the time. I don’t really mind the occasional thing, but 24/7? Who can mentally be in a good place putting stuff like that all the time?
I like this blog, I’m Just Sharing. You know why? Because I vacillate between happy and serious stuff, teaching stuff, opinions and the like, but overall I think the tone of this blog is more towards the uplifting, motivational side. I think that when one’s mind is in the right place, their writing style improves and, hopefully, others can read their words and know that even when there are complaints it’s coming from a place of love and joy, such as my post on commenting courtesies.
Think about your own life for a bit. What types of things are coming into your life on a daily basis? Is it positive stuff that makes you feel good? Are there a lot of things that you deal with that make you feel bad? Are there things you can change to help change your mindset towards more positive feelings, even if they’re small changes? In the long run, doesn’t everyone really want to feel happy at least most of the time?