The Syracuse Orange & 5 Lessons To Learn About Social Media

The first part of this article is about love, happiness and basketball. Suffice it to say that the title tells it all; the Syracuse Orange have made the Final Four in the NCAA Championships! The rest of it is that the “Orange” part refers to both the men’s and women’s teams; that’s something special, and I couldn’t be more proud.

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For the women’s team, there are a lot of firsts. They were the first women’s team to make the final 16, then the final 8 and now the final four. They’re also the first women’s team from the state of New York to ever make the final four; now that’s saying something. Now, that only goes back to 1981-82, but still, this is New York, with lots of universities, and it’s taken 34 years for it to happen; ouch!

For the men’s team, the history is a bit different. The team has been in the NCAA championship 38 times, in the final four now six times, in the final game 3 times, won the championship in 2003 (YAY!) and has a 64-37 record.

And every time the men’s team has made it into the Final Four the critics have said they didn’t belong.

I found that little epiphany interesting. Not that the team has never been favored; the men’s team has had some very good players in history and some major talent. Yet it always seemed that, except the year they won it all, the teams that made the final four weren’t replete with spectacular individuals. Maybe one guy was pretty good, but what made them winners was team play that elevated itself at the right time and other teams who weren’t used to playing against the kind of style that few teams other than Syracuse plays. Everyone thinks it should be easy to beat… but it’s not.

Going back to 1975 and this weekend, nothing much has changed… except for the advent of social media. In its own way, it’s both the great equalizer and the great living and growing troll. It’s the one place where a bunch of fans of one team can find each other and glory in the success of the team, while those who hate those teams can also find those fans and troll the heck out of them. And the trolls aren’t relegated to… well, trolls. Critics, aka sports commentators, can hate as well as trolls at this time of year.

It’s pretty amazing stuff overall, and I thought I’d share some of the lessons one can learn when things like this, which is garnering a lot of attention at this time of year (which of course also includes politics since it’s a presidential year; sigh…) are dominating social media.

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1. It’s nice getting support from people you don’t know.

Part of what I do with marketing on social media is work towards expanding my influence by showing authority and expertise at certain things. I get some attention here and there, but it’s nothing like when there’s something big happening and you find yourself a part of it. Last week’s blog post got a lot of attention, but that pales in comparison to the attention I was able to generate and get this past weekend in promoting my excitement for both Syracuse teams. I spend a lot of time alone, and being able to enjoy something with lots of people I don’t know because they were able to find something I wrote and like it felt pretty cool. Hashtags do work. 🙂

What this tells us is that there are people who are looking to support someone who shares their values. I’ve written in the past how once I started my Twitter marketing campaign how lots of people started adding me to their lists. This is the same kind of thing. Without having to specifically target an audience based on competencies I was able to reach people by using community methods if you will. I had a lot of people add me to lists and some even started following me because of my participating in this event; how neat is that?

2. There’s extraordinary power in being cast as the underdog.

The worst part about social media is having to deal with haters. I personally didn’t have to deal with any of that, but the men’s team did. However, one should never underestimate the power of people doubting you or hating on you. Sometimes people will win or beat you “in spite of” their either not being as bad as you perceive them to be or because that chip in their shoulders is something that must be busted up.

Once again, there’s a sense of community when people agree you in noticing that others are hating on something you support. I put this tweet out there last night:

Just realized that every time the #Syracuse men’s team has been in the Final 4 or championship game critics said they didn’t belong there.

You wouldn’t believe how many times people shared it. I then posted the same thing on Facebook, but expanded it a lot. It got some pretty good attention there also, and that’s with my posting it after midnight, when most of my local peeps have already gone to bed (the wusses lol). It will be interesting to see how well it spread when I finally check on it late tomorrow morning.

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3. The haters hate even more when you make them look bad.

I’m not going to say that when I hate a specific team that I don’t go out of my way to hate them. Well, actually I used to do that; these days, I’ll hate them until my teams aren’t a part of it anymore, then I move on. So, hate from people who have a reason to hate (teams one competes against or has a history with) makes sense (I hate Georgetown lol). But hate from those who have no connection to a team? That’s just silly in my opinion. And then, when that teams succeeds, to allow the hate to grow because you were wrong… it just invites more people to come after you, and maybe you feed off that, but it ruins the social media experience for everyone else.

There’s a particular commentator who always seems to hate the Orange for some reason. He was the most vociferous voice against the team making it into the tournament, and even after they’ve made the final four he’s still pretty vociferous. Of course the Syracuse fans have gone after him (I mentioned him but didn’t write to his account) and he’s responded… and it’s not pretty. In my opinion he’s feeding off it instead of just going away or applauding the team for its accomplishments and moving on. Still, he’s a sports commentator so maybe he thinks it’ll make his show more popular; guess we’ll have to see.

I wrote a post where I said that people are going to hate on you anyway so go ahead and do what you want to do. Sometimes the best stimulus you’re going to get isn’t going to come from your supporters but from your detractors. Righteous rage is a good thing as long as it doesn’t make you stray from your goals.

4. Trending; well, that’s something new for me…

Not that I personally was trending, but for a while on Sunday, #Syracuse was in the top 3 on Twitter for trending. At one point it was at #2… and it wasn’t all good. Still, being recognized for something like this, to the extent that people want to talk about you either positively or negatively, is intriguing.

I had my own little bit of impact that was kind of fun. A few times over the weekend I not only tweeted a particular message related to my teams, but I posted the same thing on Facebook; not quite verbatim since I could write something longer on Facebook, but I started with the same premise. I found that those posts generated more likes, shares, retweets and comments than almost anything else I’ve ever posted on either of these two sites.

Here’s the fascinating part. Whereas I expected some of the interaction on Twitter because of the hashtags, I hadn’t expected the upsurge on Facebook. What my thought was is that the word Syracuse had to be affecting Facebook’s algorithm, which can’t tell whether it’s a positive mention or not, and for whatever reason it started showing my posts, and those of others, with that word in the streams of others who maybe normally don’t see your posts. I noticed I was seeing posts from people I almost never see posting anything. I also noticed that even with people whom I’ve kind of sculpted out of my stream that suddenly they were able to see the Syracuse posts, and I only knew that because they were liking those posts.

This proves that if we can find something that’s attracting the attention of a lot of people that we can make ourselves be seen by more people than the norm. That’s not always a great thing, since I keep trying to go out of my way in blocking anything that has to do with this political season, with varying success. So, it was nice that for a few days I saw almost nothing in my Facebook stream talking about any of those folks; maybe I’ll get lucky for another week. lol

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5. We all love a bandwagon to climb on, good or bad

Not hiding anything here; I don’t like Donald Trump. I’m not close to being alone; even people in his own party don’t seem to like him. Yet, those people who do support him are rabid fans, and they’ve found their crowd who seems to be pushing him to the nomination for president of the Republican party, stunning all those Republican pundits who back last summer said Trump’s participation was only a sideshow and that when the primaries came he’d be a non-entity. Remember #2 above?

Although I don’t like politics generally, the one thing that’s fascinating about it is seeing how people will jump on the bandwagon of the flavor of the moment and be willing to jump back off it and onto the next thing at a moment’s notice because suddenly it’s not “hot” anymore. If you have followed politics even at arm’s length since last July, you’ll realize that at one point or another upwards of 7 different people were considered the front runner for the Republican party. That’s not just a crowded house, that’s a basketball team with two reserves.

For the Democratic party, There was one front runner, and she’s still the front runner, but there’s a guy on her coattails that no one outside of his own state even knew about until probably November or December of this year, and he’s making things tougher than expected for her. The other guy has touched some folks positively and a lot of them are jumping onto the bandwagon to support him. Whether it’s ultimately successful or not, it shows the power of a bandwagon.

Those of us who are hoping to make a statement of some kind on social media need to do one of two things. We either find a bandwagon to jump on and hope that everything else we put out can enter into the consciousness of those folk who notice you’re on the bandwagon, or we find a way to create our own bandwagon so that people will talk about us, share our stuff, and get others to join in.

What I noticed last night after the game was over was that some of the people who were liking my stuff or retweeting either what I was saying or sharing were suddenly sharing or retweeting some of my own stuff, which was queued up to go out at specific times throughout the day and night, a couple of those times during and just after both the men’s and women’s games ended. These weren’t people who were initially connected to me either, and that was not only unexpected but rather enjoyable. All it took was my being a part of the Syracuse sports bandwagon while offering something else that some folks felt they could get behind.

This shouldn’t have been totally unexpected. My buddy Joanne Del Balso once talked to a group and told them how she’d gotten 3 clients for her accounting business just by participating in an unofficial Twitter group “chat” of sorts while a TV show was on, and they were all using the hashtag for it. Some folks liked what she was saying, checked out her Twitter profile, then checked out her website, called her and hired her. That fits in well with what I was talking about last week as it pertains to engagement, along with saying that we don’t have to be marketing 24/7 to be effective in attracting people and doing business with them.

There you are, 5 lessons that maybe you’ll find something to learn from. If not… hey, I have two separate teams to root for next weekend in two separate final fours in college basketball; I’m already energized. 🙂
 

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Aiming To Be A Top 50 Blogger

Do you know who E Brian Rose is? He’s a keynote speaker, businessman, and author of the book Millionaire Within. He’s also the guy who founded JVZoo.

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I didn’t know that until a week ago when I came upon a story about him on Huffington Post. In the story, he talks about how he was able to get a lot of buzz about the company via social media. In essence he created a storm. I’m almost hesitant to talk about him or his company because I’m still getting tons of spam emails every day from unknown people who are still spreading his business’ name all over the place.

Anyway, he’s known for one particular quote: “You don’t get famous by being the best in your field. Fame comes by being the best marketer in your field.” And he followed me on Twitter.

I’m not close to being the best marketer in my field… any of them. I’ve been working for 10 years on getting my name out there, hoping to be recognized as one of the best in… well, whatever. I want to be known as a top 50 “whatever” in more than one field. I’m already on one list as a top 50 leadership blogger for Mitch’s Blog, which is pretty cool. However, that’s the only leadership list I’m on; I want more.

I’m not on any blogging lists. I know that some of that has to do with the fact that I haven’t really marketed myself or this blog all that well. Some of it is that I haven’t made a lot of money blogging, and that’s a major criteria. I would say that some of it has to do with the fact that this blog isn’t ranked higher than it is, but when this blog was ranked really high I still never made any blogging lists.

In the last year, once I started my marketing push on Twitter, I started garnering a lot more attention there. I was being added to lots of lists and having a lot of my content shared. That was pretty cool… but no lists. I’ve been added to lists for social media, finance, health care as well as leadership… but only the one list to date.

What’s the deal about being on lists? Back in 2010 I wrote a series of posts on the topic of influence. I wrote that “influence is the power to make an effect of some kind.” I talked about how influence allows you the opportunity to also make more money, which in pretty influential in and of itself. I did a video on the topic also:


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Remember the first post of the year being on the topic of focus? My #5 point was to “figure out what I consider is really important, and spend more time on that.” I’m of the opinion that one of the things that would help me a great deal is to become more of a name on people’s lips, as well as in their minds. I don’t want to sit in the shadows if you will; I want to be famous! 🙂

What are the issues? Let’s name them:

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1. My name is also the name of someone else who was famous.

One would think that a drummer who hadn’t done anything in decades and is now deceased would dwindle a bit in notoriety. Nope; he’s still killing me in search engines, no matter what I do. At least I’m in the top 25… right at #25, and only because of my Google Plus page. Throw that out and I’m at #40. I ain’t got nothin’ on Holly Jahangiri, who corners the market with her name. lol

2. I’m not great at marketing.

That’s not exactly true. I’m not comfortable with it. I’m getting good at Twitter but everywhere else… nope, not working all that well, although last week one of my videos, the one comparing Time Warner and Verizon FiOS, finally hit 10,000 views; that’s incredible! However, other than another video I did fussing about Verizon, I haven’t had another video on that channel hit 500 views, not even the one my friend Scott probably didn’t see talking about my background. I do have 3 videos on my business channel that have more than a thousand views, with 6 of the 7 being health care related. It’s a start right?

3. Blog writing is a background process.

I’ve said that I have over 5,000 articles online, which is true. The other side of that is my name isn’t on a lot of them. My name is in a lot of other places though, including one I’d totally forgotten about and really need to slap myself on because I never remembered it to go back & comment on it, from 2011. I have to thank Arlee Bird for the opportunity; what a moron I was for missing it!

4. I rarely ask anyone to share my content.

You know what? I wrote all that other stuff to get to this one. Do you know the last time I asked anyone to share my blog posts? Turns out it was November 2010; are you kidding me? Do you know the last time I asked anyone to share my videos? Never!

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Help a brotha out lol

You know that thing above, #2, where I talked about not being great at marketing? Sometimes we have this assumption that people are going to do something just because we’ve put it out.

I used to assume that if people stopped by to read articles on my blogs that they would all comment; learned that one wasn’t true quickly. Last week’s post about lots of blog content has almost thrown out another belief I had that might not be true.

Do you know a guy on YouTube who calls his channel Daym Drops? He does food reviews from his car; yup, you got that right. He’s also very popular and has gotten so big that he’s been on Rachael Ray’s TV show, had his own TV show in 2014, and recently was mentioned on CNN; how’s that for growth? I mention him because at the end of every video he does he asked people to comment on his video, either like or dislike, and to share his videos. He’s not alone in doing this either.

As much as we hate marketing, if we want to get anywhere in this world it’s going to take marketing. You want a better job; market yourself. You want a raise; market yourself. You want to start your own business selling either services or products; market yourself. You want to be better known… you get the point.

For my main career, I need to do some things I’ve not been comfortable with. For my “secondary” businesses, I need to do the same thing. On this front though, a big part of it involves asking you, the reader, the content sharer, the potential “100 true fan” if you wouldn’t mind sharing some of my content here and there if you read it and agree with it. I’m not even going to ask you to comment on it, although I really wish you would.

By this time next year, I want to appear on some top 50 blogging lists. It’s one of the things I’m going to focus on; I think it’s really that important. If not this year then the next; hey, why not me right?

There you go; I’ve asked. Now let’s see if it takes me another 5 years to ask again. 😉
 

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Promoting Ourselves, Our Content, Our Videos… Everything!

You know, I’m good at giving advice. Sometimes people don’t take it. Sometimes they do, and when they do, things always seem to work out well for them. Not that I’m perfect or a know-it-all, but I’m pretty good at analyzing other people’s habits and troubles and helping to find a solution that helps. After all, I am a consultant. lol

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Often, people follow my advice… after someone else tells them what I’ve told them. I’ve recommended to some people to start blogs. I’ve recommended to some people that they should be doing videos. I’ve recommended to some people that they should be doing interviews, even podcasts. Eventually they all do it… after someone else tells them after I’ve said it.

I don’t get mad; I figure I’m more the visionary, the one who knows what could come, and maybe I’m so far ahead of the curve that it doesn’t make sense… until it does. It’s like what I say about motivation and motivational material. It’s all pretty good, but sometimes a person isn’t ready for it at that moment. But when they’re ready to consume it… it can be life changing for the good.

Why the preamble? I figured that I’d boost myself up before I break myself down. Because, when all is said and done, there’s a lot of things that I’ve written on this blog that, for one reason or another, I haven’t always done on my own. Thus, I might be holding myself back from some of my long term goals… actually, forget the “might”; I am.

This is a cautionary tale that’s also an open admission. Come along for the ride.

You see, I like to consider myself a content producer. Back in the day, I used to write 5 days a week on this blog. At that time I only had 2 blogs, and on the other one I wrote 3 times a week. Even now, I have 5 blogs, I’ve written two actual books, and I do a lot of writing for others. I’m hoping to make more money writing for others… but that’s another thing entirely.

What I’ve always been hesitant to do a lot of is marketing and promoting. It felt a bit self serving, even though I want more people to visit my blogs, read my articles, and possibly hire me for all sorts of things. I did mention I’m a consultant; yet, even there I’ve always been a pretty reluctant marketer and promoter.

Earlier this year, I shared the results of a short personal study on traffic, which was the result of planning my Twitter posts and writing articles on LinkedIn. I also talked about the disappointment of trying to get things going on both Facebook and Google Plus.

While a part of that was good, it wasn’t close to enough. I’ve had to start thinking about shifting a part of what it is I do, and some of that has come from my conversations with my friend Yasmin Shiraz. Over the course of the last few months, she’s been working hard as getting more traffic to her sites while promoting her latest book and a film project at the same time. I’m tired just hearing about all the things she’s been doing.

However, a big part of it all has been putting into place some suggestions I’ve made. After all, I’m the guy who wrote a post about driving more visitors to one’s blog, and those same tactics can be applied to websites, YouTube, etc.

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That’s been working out great for her. At the same time, it’s gotten me to think more about some of the things I do… or don’t do. It’s pretty illuminating stuff, that’s for sure.

She’s in media, and she knows the value of promotion. I’ve written about promotion and done a bit of it, but I knew I needed to step it up… a lot. I also needed to do it better and smarter, and get more attention to my newer content at the same time. You know, striking the iron while it’s hot.

So, I’ve already made some changes, and I’m going to be making more. I don’t expect anyone to follow what I’m doing because our overall goals are going to be different. After all, I’m trying to become more influential in many different realms. With a name like Mitch Mitchell, I have to jump over the former drummer for Jimi Hendrix and try to out-swim a reporter for the Dallas – Fort Worth newspaper for attention, and probably a thousand other Mitch Mitchell’s who came later to the internet party. lol

What are those changes? Well, I think I’ll talk more about the rest of it next week, but the first change is that, unless I’m paid, I’m going to cut back to one article a week on all of my blogs. Since I have 5 blogs, that should make them all easier to write consistently on, and if I have the article go live on different days, it’ll make them all easier to promote. After all, I’m the guy who told folks what the secret to success was… which I’m not going to say again, so you’ll have to check out the post I just linked to and possibly the video that’s there. 🙂

The one thing that’s not going to change is what this blog is mainly about… well, actually, since it’s about whatever I want it to be about that’s not much of a change overall. lol I talk about blogging, social media and writing most of the time, and marketing is a big part of social media for a lot of people. If it’s not… y’all are either doing it wrong or you’re just writing to be writing, which I’ve been accused of often.

It’s never been true… I’ve always said that I write for myself first and hope that people will enjoy it. After all, if I won’t like it & read it myself why should I expect anyone else would?

So, come back next week for the next round of information. It could be valuable advice and, like I began this article, it seems that when people follow my advice they do very well. It’s time I did the same for myself. 😉
 

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Stepping Away From Social Media; The Risks, The Rewards…

Last week I did another one of my experiments. After what turned into a draining holiday week I decided that I was going to step away from social media for a week just to see what would happen. I pretty much thought I knew what would happen on one front; absolutely nothing. I even made a video about it and popped it up on YouTube that I didn’t promote, figuring almost no one would watch it and thus it wouldn’t matter that I announced it somewhere, as it’s the only place I did announce it; that sucker only got 5 views and it got 2 thumbs up; not a bad ratio. lol

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First let me qualify what I considered as social media during this time. It included Facebook, LinkedIn, Google Plus, Instagram, Empire Avenue and Twitter. I didn’t respond to anyone from any of those platforms, and I didn’t even go look at those pages, although I admit it was tough initially. After all, I did get email from many of those sources, although I didn’t get a single thing directly to me on any of them; that was somewhat prophetic.

I also didn’t write a single blog post after Sunday, though I did respond to comments if I received any; I’d never disrespect anyone who took the time to comment on a blog post. So, even though I consider blogging to be a big part of social media, that was a courtesy call. But I didn’t read or comment on any other blogs during this time. The only deviation from totally disappearing was having a guest post on my financial blog go live during the week; nothing I could do about that one.

I did respond to email though, and I did go online to play chess against a couple of people on different sites, as well as going to Nationstates to play, since I don’t interact with anyone there. Thus, I didn’t abandon the internet; I even watched some YouTube videos. But I didn’t talk to anyone; overall, I was invisible.

The first thing I noticed was the craving come Sunday night. I stopped participating after midnight on Saturday, but I was on airplanes and in airports until close to 4PM and wasn’t in the hotel until around 4:45. Thus, I didn’t start missing anything until around 8PM, when I decided I was in for the night and wondered what the heck I was going to do with myself. The same for Monday night, except I had WWE wrestling to help me take my mind off that for awhile. lol

Otherwise, once the craving was gone I wasn’t really missing anything except Empire Avenue, which is a game but offers the opportunity to interact with people, thus my reason to stay away from it.

I got really comfortable with things and it took some pressure off… some that is, and I’ll come back to that. However, I still didn’t really know what to do with myself. I had hoped that I would be productive, write a lot of stuff, read a lot of stuff, etc. I didn’t do any of that. Instead, I played this sudoku game on my Nook, went to bed early, slept terribly because I wasn’t used to trying to sleep that early, and didn’t produce anything. What a major waste of time that was; and people say social media wastes time.

The second thing I noticed was that I felt more alone than I expected I would. Without having people online to talk to or interact with, and being out of town, I felt a little bit lonely. I did get to go out with the one friend I know living here Wednesday night but that was it. So, for the week I had to deal with cicadas, working out and hurting myself, and my food pictures on my own because I couldn’t share a thing.

And yet, I also felt a release of a certain type of pressure I hadn’t thought of before. The “need” to share certain things waned a bit. I didn’t share any news stories that intrigued me. I didn’t share pictures or links to anything that I enjoy doing. I was suddenly anonymous; I could do anything I wanted to, not read anything if I didn’t care to because I knew I wasn’t going to read with the intention of finding neat stuff to share with anyone.

I hadn’t thought about it before but participating in social media can be stressful. When it comes to blogging, even though I write fairly easily, the idea that I should be producing so much content to keep people visiting my blogs and websites is crushing when you step away from it. It’s amazing how much the traffic on my blogs and websites has dropped as I’ve slowed down on how much I’d been producing before I left town; amazing. I was always cognizant of having to do it and enjoying doing it, but seeing what I see… mind blowing.

Finally, the third thing I noticed is that no one noticed. I didn’t get any messages asking where I was or if anything was wrong. I didn’t see anything coming through the email stream noticing that anything had changed. Actually, when I finally reappeared, it wasn’t until late Saturday that someone actually said that he noticed I’d been quiet lately; one guy. lol

And yet, it didn’t bother me as much as I thought it might. So, when I was ready to end the experiment I wasn’t quite ready to end it, though I did. I started slowly, starting with Empire Avenue, doing a quick check on Twitter and Google Plus, and leaving Facebook for the next day. I also popped a couple of images up on Instagram; I love that program! lol

What my time away did was reinforce things I’ve talked about in the past about working on being fascinating, working on being more important and being seen as an expert and putting myself out there in more focused and distinct ways.

In the long run I have some goals and dreams to reach, and I can’t do it by being away. Thus, I’m going to be working on producing more and being more visible in a couple more places. I’m also going to be more circumspect in what I share of myself and from others because I want to maximize my time a bit more towards focusing on how I’m perceived; when I finally write my review on The Charge by Brendon Burchard, it’ll be understood better.

So I’m back, whether you missed me or not. And I’m not going away any time soon; I’m coming back in spades… whatever that really means. 😉
 

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More On Influence – Being Fascinating

Y’all know I’ve talked about being influential in the past. I need to talk about it more because, as I always say, the more influence one has the better opportunity one has to make money and make a difference. There’s nothing wrong with either so if your mind is in that place leave it immediately and never go back there.

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A couple of days ago I was watching a video of Marie Forleo’s, and if you’re looking to grow your business and also need boosts of positivity you have to check out her video page on YouTube, which I check into often. She was interviewing a lady named Sally Hogshead, who has a business that teaches people how to evaluate how fascinating they are and how to become more fascinating in the eyes of others.

Now, initially that can sound strange until you hear her talk about it. In essence she sees the topic of fascination as a way to be in people’s minds so that you’re the only thing they can think about at certain times, if not all the time. It’s kind of like the fascination people have with certain musicians or actors or models. Her premise is that everyone is born being fascinating but over time we start to diminish ourselves, either by our own means or by listening to the words of others. Then when we need to be more fascinating, such as those of us who work for ourselves, it’s hard to turn back on. So she teaches people how to recapture that and gives 7 triggers to getting there in her latest book which is called Fascinate.

Here’s where things get interesting. One of the things she said in the video, which I’m putting at the bottom of this post, is that we need to look at ourselves and determine how other people see us, then figure out how to be more fascinating. My interpretation on this is that we do this to either try to figure out how to impress those people enough to want to hang onto our every word or buy from us or to even like us.

In other words, self reflection time; scary isn’t it? I’ve written on this blog & another blog that one thing most people hate to do is self evaluation. It’s scary because we’re all critical about ourselves and find it hard to find or talk about the good things that are within us. We’re not smart enough or tall enough or pretty enough or anything enough; isn’t that how it goes? Sure, every once in awhile we start feeling special, and yet it’s not often that many of us can sustain this. And that’s a shame.

If I had to go first, and I do since I’m writing this, I’d have to admit that more often than not I’m not feeling fascinating at all. I’m certainly not feeling influential. And yet, a few days ago I went to another local event where bloggers in the area got together and talked and networked, and I had a great time. Not only that but I can truthfully say that I felt a lot of people enjoyed my company and were happy to see and meet me. Heck, I got hugs all around; what’s better than that?

And yet, there are other meetings I go to where I feel like I’m the pariah in the room. Sally actually mentioned in the video that people get feelings from others and often ignore them in one direction or the other, but that we really do know what we’re feeling. Trust me on this one, often in my professional networking ventures I feel like people are working hard “not” to see me. That’s disconcerting and bothersome, and I either react by leaving pretty quickly or looking hard to find someone I know well enough to hang with. That means I don’t meet as many new people as one would hope, thus limiting the possibilities of being influential in any way or even attempting to be fascinating.

That’s part of the key, isn’t it? If one demures and doesn’t say anything, how will anyone even have the opportunity to see if you’re fascinating or not? For all the stories I have and the experiences I’ve been a part of, if I keep them all to myself who would ever find out if I was someone worthy of knowing? For that matter how could I ever determine whether I was fascinating or not, or what I might need to change? Blogging’s a nice thing, but is it enough to express oneself? Not in public it isn’t.

Enough about me; your turn. Do you think you’re fascinating? If so, why, and if not, why. What holds you back and what are you willing to do to try to break out of it? As you’re reading this I’m in the middle of 5 videos in 5 days, an experiment I’m trying out. My attempt at opening up some, being more personable, seeing if I can be fascinating or if I’m just goofy. You can check them out here if you have the guts. lol Meanwhile, check out the video below; both of these ladies are fascinating:


 

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