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Sunday Question – What Is Your Pride Worth?

Posted by on Apr 18, 2010

Last week a young man in this area was sentenced to 20 years to life in jail for killing someone. As his defense, he stated that he shot the other person because he looked at him wrong, and that challenged his pride. His actual words were “He gave me a look and wasn’t givin’ me my props.”

Whether one wants to use the word “pride”, “props”, or “disrespected”, life in some areas of this country can be violent over the stupidest stuff. People who know me now don’t believe I used to do things like this, but I used to park my car in certain places where I knew it would be safe when I was younger and go for walks in areas that were deemed a bit dangerous by others. I saw a lot of stuff and never engaged anyone directly, but I thought I was prepared.

Thing is, you learned some rules back then, which are different rules than today. You made sure you maintained eye contact with people back then. If you looked away before you got to the person, that was a sign of disrespect. You didn’t look down while walking towards someone, and you certainly didn’t cross the street, which, I have to say, was the major mistake of white people who walked through dangerous neighborhoods where they shouldn’t have been.

Of course, the opposite was true if I decided to walk through a dangerous white neighborhood, which I only did once before deciding that was an unwarranted risk. You never looked them in the eye, and you kept your hands in your pockets; you know why.

In the business world, pride takes on a much different form. All of us want to be recognized for the positive things we do, but sometimes we don’t get the respect that we deserve, or believe we deserve. When that happens, there are usually a few things that happen. One, someone will try to make another person look bad. Two, people stop caring and sabotage themselves. Three, people notice how others get noticed and either start copying that, or will steal from them and present the work of others as their own; kind of like my rant on web courtesy last week. Or four, they start looking for something else and then will leave.

And then there’s five, which is to do nothing. For the most part, doing nothing stinks. You say “I’m just going to go about my business, do my job, and go home.” That works, but only for so long. It’s hard for almost all of us to just let things keep going badly for us. We don’t deserve to have to keep tolerating stuff that’s not fair. Some of us find calm ways to deal with it. Others decide to get a gun and take out an entire office, or at least those people who got on our nerves. I’m assuming y’all have kept up on this Amy Bishop story, right?

Anyway, there are so many degrees of how we all react when our pride has been attacked in some fashion. This is a two part question for this week. One, how do you react to having your pride attacked; two, how would you like to react to having your pride attacked if you could get away with it. I know the second part is scary, but hey, you’re among friends. lol

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Mitch, I’m curious about this one: “You made sure you maintained eye contact with people back then.” – was that only back then, or do you believe this also applies today?

I would have thought that keeping eye-contact with insane people, today, would be considered more like a “challenge”?
.-= Klaus @ TechPatio´s last blog ..TechPatio Post #500 – A Trip Down Memory Lane =-.

April 18th, 2010 | 10:47 AM
Mitch:

You missed my initial story at the top, Klaus; keeping eye contact got a man killed. Depending on where you are, maintaining eye contact could mean you’re challenging the other person in some fashion. In other instances, safer environments, maintaining eye contact is supposedly good for business. I remember my last worrisome encounter, so to speak, in Houston, where I stopped and made direct eye contact with someone, seeing if it was going to end badly or not. It didn’t, but I realized I had to stop taking chances like that since I was older. Now, I gauge my situations better, but I also keep myself out of dangerous situations.

April 18th, 2010 | 11:51 AM

No I did read the initial story 🙂 I just wasn’t sure if you believed that keeping eye contact (today) was good or bad. It turned out bad for the guy in the initial story though, unfortunately.
.-= Klaus @ TechPatio´s last blog ..TechPatio Post #500 – A Trip Down Memory Lane =-.

April 18th, 2010 | 11:58 AM
Mitch:

Yup. Pride can be exhibited in weird ways, Klaus. Heck, think about Japan, which has one of the highest suicide rates in the world, because people just kill themselves when they think their pride has been savaged or that they’ve shamed their families, which is also a hit on their pride.

April 18th, 2010 | 12:20 PM

Mitch, you have got to have pride to start with. I doubt that I fit the bill!
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April 18th, 2010 | 11:26 PM
Mitch:

Rummuser, you have no pride? Does that mean you never strived for any type of success whatsoever in your life?

April 19th, 2010 | 12:57 AM

No. Success just happened as a byproduct of endeavour. When it did, I was and continue to be grateful for that.

Incidentally, when I tried to send a mail to you at the email address given in your contact page, the sending failed for some reason.

I just wanted to share this with you and hoped that you will get a good laugh out of it and perhaps use it in a post.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/asia-pacific/8627335.stm
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April 19th, 2010 | 9:06 AM
Mitch:

Okay Rummuser, that made me laugh out loud! I hope others will as well.

April 19th, 2010 | 10:21 AM
Dennis Edell:

I’ve always walked with my head down minding my own, no matter where I was…I’ve also always been a bit larger then the average bear…taking your post to heart, I think the combination must have confused people. lol

Amy Bishop, pulease. Just shoot her and be done with it.
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April 19th, 2010 | 8:11 AM
Mitch:

Most of the time I don’t walk with my head down, Dennis, but I also don’t stare at anyone unless I have to, even if “she” looks extremely good. lol

April 19th, 2010 | 10:20 AM
Dennis Edell:

Well in that situation, you needn’t know more then the length of your wife’s arm. lol
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April 19th, 2010 | 3:06 PM