Contrary to anyone’s opinion I’m not a prude, nor anywhere close to a prude. I do believe there are breaches of protocol as it pertains to young people, most specifically young girls, that leads me to ask the question “what’s happened to modesty?”
I was at the New York State Fair on Friday with my wife, and we have very good time. What was troubling to me was the overwhelming number of young girls, most of whom had to be under 18 if not 16, wearing very short shorts and very tight shorts.
Like I said, think I’m anywhere close to being a prude, but when you’re seeing what is known as “camel toe” and you know you have to burn your eyes, scrub your brain, and say 20 Hail Mary’s when you get home, even if you’re not Catholic, you know that there’s a problem with modesty.
I’m not going to go down the moral road, because I don’t know that morality has anything to do with modesty in this case. I tend to think that teenagers in general are going to get away with whatever they can get away with without thinking much about consequences; they did that back in my day as well.
If they’re with a large group of people the consequences might be fewer than if they were in a small group, or if they were in a place less crowded than a major state fair. Yet, a young person could be separated from the group and grabbed by someone with a lot of guts and stupidity even in such a public place.
A big part of me asks where the parents are and what parents are thinking by allowing their young girls to walk around like this. I don’t mean alone with their friends; I mean with their parents!
I asked my wife what her thoughts were. She said there was no way in the world she would have allowed her daughters to walk out of the house dressed this way. In many instances, it seemed like what they were wearing was way more revealing than if they were at the beach wearing bikinis.
Much of this could be me suffering once again from the generation gap. After all, I remember back in the 70s when there was all this concern about girls wearing mini skirts, hot pants and tube tops and thinking that some adults might be behind the times. I also know that a lot of those girls put that stuff on once they left the house so their parents wouldn’t find out.
Then again, I also remember being young and enthusiastic and enjoying those times when I could take a peek at what a lot of the young ladies were wearing, and since they were closer to my age I didn’t have a problem with any of it. Sorry ladies; I was a normal teenager! lol
I’m reminded of a coworker back in the mid-80s who had a very shapely body and occasionally wore this pink sweater dress that she loved. I remember our conversation one day when she said she was never going to wear that dress again because she started to notice how older men were staring at her and didn’t like how she felt with their stares.
When she said this she’d just turned 20, and I remember thinking that I met her when she was only 18, and how naïve I thought she was in wearing that particular dress and some of her other outfits at the time. That she had this epiphany for the first time as she was leaving her teens helped to highlight the fact that teenagers really don’t have much of a clue as to the effect their appearance has on those of the opposite sex, no matter what their age is. That’s why I’m putting it on the back of parents; they should know better and attempt to teach their children better.
I also have to say that it wasn’t only young teenage girls were dressed this way, although overwhelmingly it was. I understand the concept of “if you got it flaunt it”, but usually you’ll see a few 30 and 40-year-olds dressing that way if they still got it… or think they do. But when they “don’t got it” and are still dressing as if they do, and you see bulging stomachs hanging outside of shirts that are too short because they’re trying to dress like the kids of today… well… you know…
So… what happened to modesty? Is it a product of the generation gap, a sign of the times, or something else I’m not thinking of?