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Sunday Question – Are You A Positive Or Negative Personality?

Posted by on May 2, 2010

Most people are going to think this is an easy question to answer, but I’m here to tell you that most people are deluding themselves, unfortunately.

Zig Ziglar says that, and I’m paraphrasing, positive thinking won’t allow you to do everything, but it will allow you to be better at everything than negative thinking. He’s one of the most positive people in this country and has been pushing out this message for more than 40 years. Here’s a guy who went bankrupt twice, yet found his way to the top of his profession, which is sales, and is one of the most sought after speakers in the country. If you don’t know about this guy you’re missing something.

When you think about positive or negative personalities, you don’t have to think in absolutes. No one is positive every moment of their life. No one is positive every moment of their day. Being positive doesn’t mean you can’t complain about something, or point out bad things. What it means, however, is that you have the ability to determine how you’re going to let it affect you over the course of your day or over the course of time.

For instance, I hate racism with a passion; I would, obviously. The United States is a racist country; heck, that’s not anything new, because truthfully every country in the world is racist in some fashion, so we’re not alone, and we’re not even at the top of the heap. I could easily walk around with a chip on my shoulder being angry at “the man” for holding me back, and blaming everything bad that happens to me on racism. And trust me, I know there are a number of things that happen to me that are based on race.

Instead, I tend to go a totally different route in my thoughts. Whereas I know racism exists, I also see the opportunities for breaking down some barriers here and there. I see that people of color aren’t allowing things to hold them back; at least not all of them. I see that people of color are achieving things that wouldn’t have been possible even 30 years ago, and that’s saying something. As I watch the news about Arizona’s stupid immigration bill, I not only see Latino people protesting, but a host of white people, often more of them that Latinos, protesting as well.

I also tend to believe that most people are inherently good, and that good things will happen for all of us. That I do it without any religious belief astounds some folks, but hey, that’s me. I do believe in the laws of attraction, though, and that we tend to bring on what we think, and who we hang out with helps determine where we’re going to go in life. I treat everyone fairly, and everyone gets the benefit of the doubt until they’ve proven themselves to be untrustworthy.

Two days ago I had another consultant tell me on the phone that I was too nice. It’s an interesting thought, and actually it’s funny because I often think our friend Sire is too nice. What I’ll believe instead is that we’ve decided to be more positive and inclusive than negative and obtrusive. We’ve decided that we want people to interact with us in a positive manner than in a negative manner, even when we might be calling someone out (that Sire is a trip!).

Back in March I asked what kind of friend are you, and some of the responses indicated that some of you like to stick to yourselves. You kind of missed the point of the question. I was basically asking if you believe people want to be around you, and if they do why. Except in networking meetings, probably because people sense I’m kind of tense, I tend to draw people to me. People talk to me all the time; I meet people who start telling me their issues almost immediately; it’s freaky. Babies are drawn to me; they stare and play with me all the time. Older women are drawn to me, and many of them comment on my eyes; I don’t quite get that one. Shy people are drawn to me, and people in trouble are drawn to me. I’ve always figured that if I were a negative personality overall, that wouldn’t happen.

So, with a bit more fleshing out of the topic, which personality do you consider yourself to be, and why?

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Dennis Edell | Direct Sales Marketing:

Positive, overall. I believe some may have jumped off a roof being me the last few years at least.

Ya just gotta keep on pumpin’. 😉
.-= Dennis Edell | Direct Sales Marketing´s last blog ..Do You USE Aweber? I Want Your Affiliate Link. Part 2 =-.

May 3rd, 2010 | 8:52 AM

We certainly do, Dennis. And it doesn’t mean we don’t get down every once in awhile, we just don’t give up either.

May 3rd, 2010 | 10:40 AM

I’m always glad and ready to lend a helping hand, so I’d like to think I have a positive attitude.
.-= Rose´s last blog ..What is a blog feed =-.

May 3rd, 2010 | 10:59 PM

Good deal, Rose; always better being positive if one can, right?

May 4th, 2010 | 12:18 AM

Right 🙂
.-= Rose´s last blog ..Lake on the Mountain =-.

May 12th, 2010 | 10:04 PM

Hey Mitch, is that what you think that post was about, that I was calling out those A listers? 😉

I like to think I’m pretty positive, although the people I’m franchised to tend to think I’m negative a lot of the times. That’s to their detriment because I’m not being negative at all. I’m merely telling them what it’s like out there in the market place but they don’t want to here it and so use the old don’t be negative routine. They don’t seem to realize that speaking the truth is not negative at all. Too bad really because were they to accept it they would be able to find a solution rather than to go around stumbling in the dark.

BTW, thanks for the link 🙂
.-= Sire´s last blog ..Stand By Me And We Will Become Better Bloggers =-.

May 5th, 2010 | 10:07 AM

Sire, of course you were calling out A-listers, but some of them deserved it. You tell it like it is, and that’s not being negative at all. Online, you’re one of the most positive people I know; I couldn’t imagine you being anything else offline.

May 5th, 2010 | 10:50 AM

Perhaps, I suppose it’s all a matter of how you look at it. Personally I was just having a little fun and they happened to be the perfect subject.

OK, I called ’em out, you’re right again. 😀
.-= Sire´s last blog ..How Commentluv And Keyword Luv Can Boost Your Comments =-.

May 5th, 2010 | 6:21 PM

I’d like to think I’m a positive person, haha. Although it seems like such a basic idea, I have really come to realize how important it is to surround yourself with other positive people. If the people around you are motivated, you will also be motivated. You don’t even have to have the same ambitions or goals as others, it’s the drive and the hunger for positivity that makes it happen!
.-= Ryan Cowles´s last blog ..Taking a Train Across the Country – Part Two =-.

May 6th, 2010 | 10:04 AM

Good point, Ryan. We not only need positive people around us, but we need people who will support us in our dreams and goals also. I’d have to say I’m pretty lucky on that front.

May 6th, 2010 | 9:08 PM