“Giving Up” Isn’t Always A Negative Thing
Posted by Mitch Mitchell on Feb 4, 2016
A couple of days ago I shared a blog post from the consultant’s group I’m a part of, as I’m the main writer there. It’s titled Are You Doing What You Want To Be Doing?, and it asks an important business question; are you doing what you want to be doing, which I guess makes sense. Anyway, go check it out after you finish reading this article… yes, I want you to read this article. lol
Anyway, I posted it on Twitter and got a response back from someone I know saying “not even close”, or something to that effect. Since it came back pretty quickly, I had a feeling he hadn’t actually read the article, so I asked if he was commenting on the title or the article, and he admitted it was just the title, and that he’d read the article when he had some free time. I said he should because there was a question at the end of the article that possibly needs to be addressed: What is it you want to do?
He came back with a response that what he wanted to do wasn’t possible at this moment because of a physical issue. I asked him a question that I see on Twitter on a regular basis: “what are you willing to give up.” He said he didn’t have anything he could give up; I challenged that based on what he’d originally said.
At that point I used my own tale, a very shortened version of it. One of these days I’m going to tell that long tale… somewhere. Anyway, I said I had to come to an epiphany 19 months ago about my health & what I was willing to give up. That was after I’d had a very bad and serious thing happen to me while I was out of town, by myself, that could have been way worse than it already was… that’s all I’m going to say for now.
Anyway, at that point he said he understood, and he had made an appointment to meet with a fitness consultant. I applauded him for taking that first step, and trust me that’s a major step for anyone to do.
When I was growing up, I played a lot of sports. The concept of “giving up” was the worst thing anyone could do. Only losers gave up; I was never a loser. Even when there were things I couldn’t do well, such as stupid soccer (did I just say that out loud? lol), I’d keep playing, trying my best, but hating every minute of it. I wasn’t ever giving up; not in my vocabulary.
As I get older, I’m learning that I have to give up a lot of things, or at least modify them drastically. I give up some of my time to exercise. I gave up some of the foods I eat because my body can’t take them anymore. I gave up some of my time to participate on the boards of a couple of non-profits, one of which I was extremely proud to have been a part of. Sometimes you have to be willing to give up something so you can either make progress, help others, or just save part of your sanity.
Sometimes that thing you have to give up is a limiting belief. This is one I suffer from here and there. The problem with it is that you have to stay on top of it consistently, like you were a former drug addict or alcoholic. The feeling always comes back, and each time it comes back you think “I’m not breaking it this time”… yet most of the time we do, thank goodness.
Since this blog mainly talks about blogging and writing, let me ask a question this way – what limiting beliefs do you have about blogging or writing that might be holding you back? Have you given any thought to it?
The way I see it, there are only two things to consider. One, do you really want to blog and all the other stuff that comes with it? Two, if so, what are you willing to give up to do it?
I’m not giving you any help on this one. Heck, I gave a freebie in this post that I’m not sure if anyone even downloaded because no one’s mentioned it or thanked me for it; sniff! So, you’re going to have to do your own work this time around.
I am going to make this question more broad though, in case blogging isn’t your issue. You don’t necessarily have to tell me what it is you’re looking to achieve if you don’t want to. However, I’d like to know what you’re willing to give up to achieve… whatever. Go on, I won’t laugh… unless I have to. 😉