Posted by Mitch Mitchell on May 21, 2013
I was listening to this presentation by some woman on a TED talk on the subject of lying and telling the truth. Her premise is that all of us lie in some way, in different degrees, and a lot of it is based more on who we’re talking to than what we’re lying about.
I found that intriguing, and I don’t remember any of the numbers right now because I was doing somethings with numbers at the time and didn’t want to mix these things up. However, it got me thinking enough about the subject to decide to write a blog post about it; that’s inspiration for you.
One of the major recommendations I always make when it comes to blogging is that you should be truthful in what you write about because people can tell if you’re putting them on. When I think about my own writings, and if I was going to be honest, I’d probably have to say that I’m at least 90% honest in all the blog posts I do.
You’re wondering where I’m lying, or why I’m not owning up to a full 100% right? Well, based on what this lady was saying, if we sugar coat certain things so we don’t hurt people’s feelings, or withhold some things that we think might coat us in a negative light, or someone else in a negative way, that’s a form of lying, if indirectly doing so.
It’s in that vein where I may be lying to you sometimes. I don’t often set out to intentionally hurt anyone’s feelings. I certainly make sure I choose my words fairly carefully when I write blog posts, even if I’m telling a true story. For instance, when I wrote my post about bullying on blogs and mentioned my friend’s blog and video, if you visited either one of those you’ll see there was a lot more emotion in what she wrote and words that I’d never use in person, let alone write on my blog. In my mind I told her story in my way, as honest as I could with my personal demeanor, but not as brutally honest as she told it since it happened to her.
So, was I lying? Directly no. But based on some of the comments the post received I had to wonder if they would have been different if I’d told the story differently, showed way more anger than I did, told more truth than I did in my post about her experience, maybe shared more of one of my own experiences from my past. Is that lying or a writer’s prerogative, and does a prerogative negate something as a lie or not?
I’ll put the question out to you, because who says that experts always know what reality is anyway? lol Often I think reality is what we believe it is and science is what it thinks it is, and the two don’t always agree. So, when we don’t tell it totally as it is are we prevaricating or are we still being truthful, just in our own way?
Posted by Mitch Mitchell on May 8, 2013
Those of you who visit this blog often know that I often have a new post every 2 to 3 days. I always have something I want to talk about so writer’s block isn’t a problem I have. Sometimes even I have things that get in the way of keeping up a heavy blogging schedule because not only do I have the 5 blogs to keep up with but, as an independent consultant, every once in awhile I need to concentrate on other things for awhile to bring in some cash so I can play around for awhile.
The gap this time around had nothing to do with either of those, although I’m writing this from another city in a hotel room with a relatively slow “high speed” internet connection. But it’s free so I’m not overly complaining.
Many of you saw my last post titled Don’t Be Bullied About Your Blog Or Web Space; if you didn’t see it please check it out and the blog and video that’s linked to it. In my opinion it was a post that deserved to have some time to catch on without a lot of other stuff getting in the way. I could have had a post ready to go the next day or two days afterwards, but the way I saw things it would have done a great disservice to the post.
Here’s two realities. The first is that if you write more you get more traffic. A few years ago I tried an experiment where I wrote 2 posts a day for two weeks. My traffic jumped nicely, and I proved my point. I also proved another point; the traffic I got for one post was different than the traffic I got for another post. That means those posts got almost no comments, even from people who were regular visitors. Thus, I didn’t quite get what I wanted even though I got what I wanted; you get that?
The second reality is that sometimes you have to step back and let a post germinate. When that happens, when you really touch a nerve, you can end up getting more traffic from one post in a particular week than you might get from combined posts.
In a 2-week span the post I linked to above got more visitors than the next three posts combined. Only one other post in the top 10 had people staying longer, and it was a pretty long post that also had a video at the end, but I wasn’t in that video, although I wouldn’t have griped much if I had been because the ladies in that video were pretty attractive.
Sometimes you have to recognize when you write something that you feel might be important, or you have to be cognizant in paying attention to how a post is being received and decide to hold off on when you want your next post to go out. The way I see it, that post had some legs, needed some time for its momentum to play out a bit, get some comments, and then be ready to move on. I think at this point it’s had its run, even though it’s still getting comments. And people have been supportive of my friend, so much so that a lot of you have gone to her blog and made comments; thanks for that, as it proves that we bloggers really are a community that looks out for each other.
Have you paid attention to your blog posts to recognize when one might need more time? What about posts that need less time; have you ever thought about that as well? Let me know; meanwhile, enjoy the rest of your week!
Posted by Mitch Mitchell on May 3, 2013
Well, I’m on a two-day “mad” if you will, and it’s something that really has nothing to do with me. A couple of days ago I was alerted to the fact that one of my local blogging friends was bullied by this guy who owns a gym. In my opinion he’s been bullying her since the first day she showed up but I think she missed it.
Anyway, the main thing he bullied her about was writing about his place in her blog. He told her if she wrote about the gym he’d ban her from coming. The reason she went in the first place was because the gym misrepresented what it did and, in my mind, the guy was worried that if she wrote about it he’d be discovered.
After awhile he went too far, she got upset, and she both wrote about it and did a video. Her name is Reneè and her post is titled The Wrong Way; I hope you visit it, read it, and offer her some support because this could have been you.
Anyway, I’m obviously writing about it here, I wrote about it in this week’s Hot Blog Tips Newsletter, and I did the video below, which I’m going to share in multiple spaces. No one has the right to bully people for what they do in their own space as long as they’re not intentionally hurting someone. You’ll see how she was bullied and insulted in her blog post so I’m not going to repeat what he said, but I’m thinking that he probably wouldn’t have dared say it to another man. Obviously homeboy has no idea what the power of social media can do; he’s going to find out real soon, as I’ve done my part. As I said, I hate bullies.
I hope you watch the video below and I hope you like it, share it, comment on it and this post, and help spread awareness about bullies trying to stop people from doing what they want to do on their blogs and in social media.
Posted by Mitch Mitchell on Apr 30, 2013
This post is a bit of fun, as the British like to say. It started with this guy Lamarr Wilson who mentioned that he saw a Tumblr post of someone (he mentions the guy but didn’t link to it) who had 30 questions on music and that he wanted to answer some of them for his video post. He tackled 10 of them, doing a bit of performing for each of them as well. Then Brian Hawkins of Hot Blog Tips sent me a video of a lady named Tomeka Haywood who did a video response to Lamarr’s video.
I thought about doing a video as well, since I’ve been doing a lot of videos lately, but decided that I’d rather write down my responses to all 30 questions instead for two reasons. One, if I performed or even talked about all 30 of these questions that could take awhile, and I don’t feel like only answering the ones I like necessarily. Two, I’m not performing any of them, thus why do it as a video? I’ll get better use out of doing it as a blog post; at least I hope so.
This is the kind of thing that bloggers can do to have fun every once in awhile and add a bit of content to their site. Some might say it takes away from one’s niche but come on… what’s the niche of this blog anyway? So, here we go, with explanations if I’m in the mood, but expect a lot of songs involving Michael Jackson here.
1: A song you like with a color in the title
Little Red Corvette, Prince
2: A song you like with a number in the title
The One, Elton John
3: A song that reminds you of summertime
Dancing Machine, Jackson Five (came out summer of 1975)
4: A song that reminds you of someone you would rather forget about
Feelings, Morris Albert, although it’s the guy I’d like to forget about as well as the fact that such a lame song hit #1
5: A song that needs to be played LOUD
Get Down Tonight, KC & the Sunshine Band
6: A song that makes you want to dance
Shake Your Body To The Ground, Jacksons
7: A song to drive to
Walk Away, Donna Summer
8: A song about drugs or alcohol
The Piano Has Been Drinking, Tom Waits
9: A song that makes you happy
I’m using this one to answer the question “what’s my favorite song”, that being I Want You Back by the Jackson Five
10: A song that makes you sad
Sometimes It Snows In April, Prince
11: A song that you never get tired of
I Love The Nightlife, Alicia Bridges
12: A song from your preteen years
Sugar Sugar, The Archies
13: One of your favorite 80’s songs
Billie Jean, Michael Jackson
14: A song that you would love played at your wedding
The song I did play at my wedding as our first dance song, How Deep Is Your Love by the Bee Gees
15: A song that is a cover by another artist
Knock On Wood, Amii Stewart’s cover of a song by Eddie Floyd
16: One of your favorite classical songs
17: A song that you would sing a duet with on karaoke
I actually performed this song with someone at a wedding, Endless Love by Lionel Richie & Diana Ross
18: A song from the year that you were born
Charlie Brown by The Coasters
19: A song that makes you think about life
Man In The Mirror, Michael Jackson
20: A song that has many meanings to you
Keep The Faith, Michael Jackson
21: A favorite song with a person’s name in the title
Gloria, Laura Branigan (only because I already used Billie Jean lol)
22: A song that moves you forward
2 Legit To Quit, MC Hammer
23: A song that you think everybody should listen to
A relatively new song, Unwritten by Natasha Bedingfield
24: A song by a band you wish were still together
Happy Together, The Turtles
25: A song by an artist no longer living
Remember The Time, Michael Jackson
26: A song that makes you want to fall in love
Bring It On Home To Me, Sam Cooke
27: A song that breaks your heart
I Don’t Wanna Miss A Thing, Aerosmith (cursed Armageddon movie…)
28: A song by an artist with a voice that you love
You Raise Me Up, Josh Groban
29: A song that you remember from your childhood
ABC, Jackson Five
30: A song that reminds you of yourself
Home, Stephanie Mills
That’s all I’ve got. Comment below, or write your own post I share with us.
Posted by Mitch Mitchell on Apr 28, 2013
Funny how time flies. Turns out it was 4 1/2 years ago that I actually wrote my last piece on gravatars, how to create them, how to set your blog up to show them, etc. What I missed in that piece all those years ago was why anyone should have them. I guess I thought that would be obvious, but time has proven that no, most people still don’t get it. So, let’s look at 5 reasons why you need to have a gravatar.
1. Identity – Having a gravatar gives you an identity and helps you stand out from all those people people who comment on blogs and don’t have an image of any kind. People are more trusting of you and your comments if there’s an image associated with it.
2. Brand – Although your face should probably be your strongest brand, you can also use a logo of your business for your gravatar image. Truth be told, I have multiple gravatars and each one is associated with a different email address. Each one also uses a picture of me, which allows me to change up from time to time when I’m commenting because people always recognize the face sooner than the website or blog it’s attached to.
3. Protection – I’ve seen times when comments are somewhere that don’t read like the person who’s purported to have written them, if you know that person. Sneaky weasels do that to promote spam, and it can ruin the name or reputation of the person whose information they’re using. However, if you have a gravatar associated with your email address and no image shows up, that could vindicate you. Spammers aren’t as smart as we all think they are; they don’t always know your email address when writing spam comments.
4. Looking good in your own space – You write a blog others comment and have pictures next to their names, and you’re responding with nothing except one of those default gravatar things showing up; how professional does that look?
5. Influence – If you comment often and you have an image associated with your image eventually you start getting better known, and that helps your influence spread on the internet, even if it’s only within your relatively small sphere of influence. People love seeing my face (so they say lol) on their blogs along with a comment or two.
There you are. Now, having a gravatar won’t help you with blog sites like Typepad, but for pretty much everywhere else a gravatar will help you stand out. Come on, what are you waiting for? Check out the first post I linked to if you want to know how to do it, or just go to gravatar.com and follow the very easy instructions. Go now… okay, go after you comment.