In the movie The Secret, there was a lot of talk about the overall premise, which is the law of attraction. I’ve written more specifically about it on my business blog. Coming across it recently is what leads me into talking about it today.
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Over the years, I’ve worked on applying the concept to many parts of my life. I’ve had both successes and some bad “experiments” occur because of it. I blame both on the law of attraction, but nothing overly metaphysical, which both the book and the movie alluded to a lot.
To begin with, I do believe in the law of attraction. I believe it in the way that I believe that good begets good and bad begets bad. I believe that if you think positively about things you bring positivity into your life more often, and if you think negatively you bring negativity to you more often. Sure, every once in a while something happens that counters each of these things, but based on people’s patterns of thinking they’ll soon go back to the way things were beforehand, because if you have a pattern of thinking one way you tend to fall back into that pattern without thinking about changing that particular habit.
By now you’re probably wondering where I’m going with this article. Every once in a while I need to change my mind’s focus, and in my own way I decide to use a law of attraction principle to help me do it. This leads me into being able to talk about some specific types of rules concerning the law of attraction, especially as it pertains to me. Let’s get started.
1. You must establish a reason for wanting to change.
The reason this part is important is that it helps you to bring focus to what it is you want in your life. Not only that, but the law of attraction doesn’t pay as much attention to whether what you’re thinking about is positive or negative, good or bad… just what you’re thinking about more than anything else.
In my case, I’ve decided it’s time to think of my business and life in more positive terms, because I have to admit I’ve been pretty negative about how things have been going over the last bunch of months… years actually, with the things I’ve had to deal with in my personal life.
The reason I want to change is because I wanted to work from a positive point of view; who doesn’t want more positivity in their lives? Work, sleep, health, relaxation… I work on thinking about how I want to manifest a positive mind shift. I tend to think more often about what’s happening in the moment than where I want to be, Unfortunately, I don’t always have that feeling of “a href=”https://www.imjustsharing.com/theres-power-in-positivity-by-kelvin-ringold/”>positivity in my mind. I have moments, but nothing that sticks around for long.
But when I’m in a visualizing mood, it feels pretty good:
https://youtu.be/o2MqciSMOmk
2. You want to have a working goal; it doesn’t have to be overly specific.
I have some professional and personal goals I’d love to reach; I’m not counting the “winning the big lottery” as a goal. lol The overall working goal is that I want to create more products or services like my new <>a href=”blog.medicalbillinganswers.com” target=”_blank”>health care revenue cycle training site, write more books, do more well paid live presentations across the country, and an occasional consulting gig where I can work most of it from home. The reality is that I’m already a professional speaker; I’ve just been out of the game for some years now, but it shows me that this is a goal that I know is attainable.
The reason you don’t have to be overly specific is, as The Secret mentions, you never really know how things will manifest themselves, no matter how much you put into things. For instance, I could create what I consider to be the perfect package on a specific topic and not sell anything because of factors I can’t control. At the same time I could create something that was more work than pleasure that could sell tons.
This means the only thing I can control is the creation of the packages and the delivery system; that leaves a lot to chance. We address that with the next rule.
3. Establish something that you “know” will make you happy.
Something I’ve been working on over the past couple of months is the language I use when I’m writing on all my blogs. Over the years, I tend to use language that’s not overly forceful or definitive; pretty much like this sentence. lol
I’ve always tried to be more realistic with my language and the things I say. If I could guarantee something, I’d say it; otherwise, I’d hedge my bet by saying things like “if you try this thing out you “might” become more proficient…” That’s encouraging isn’t it? Not even close!
I’m betting you’d be more impressed if I said “if you do this you will become more proficient…” Definitely sounds more definitive, but over the years I’ve learned that everything doesn’t work for everyone in the same way. For instance, telling someone they should eat more green vegetables sound healthy and might be true for almost everyone else, but for someone like me who has high potassium issues, if you told me that without knowing anything about me, I might question everything else you have to say (and I have).
As soon as I started working on my latest project, I started feeling happier than I’d been in a long time. I’ve had some setbacks, and times when I thought it wasn’t ever coming together, but I stuck with it to the point that I’m almost ready to officially launch it. I have a couple more things to do before I go there, but I’m feeling better about things overall because I’m moving in a positive direction… I think I’ve beaten that horse enough already.
https://youtu.be/a_urxI9L5Ak
4. Open your mind to allow outside factors positive access.
When I decided to suspend my participation on Twitter for now (which I might be ending any day now), I realized that I’d closed off one of my social media promotional options. I thought about it for about a week until I realized that I could create a Facebook page where I could share all (or almost) of my content like I was doing on Twitter.
I hadn’t thought about it earlier because years ago I had a Facebook business profile page that got little attention and felt like it took a lot more work, so I shut it down. With this page, I can share almost everything, even things I created years ago, and I haven’t even invited anyone specific to join (though I’ve mentioned it a “few” times on my profile page… cough…).
What’s been amazing is that even though I have fewer subscribers to the page for now (a lot less), it’s been getting way more attention than my other channel ever did, even though I ran a Facebook advertising campaign. I’m pretty happy with it, considering it’s been around for about 2 months or so.
Thinking about something new and finding it could work well was a very positive experience. If I hadn’t kept my mind open to it I’d have never thought much about it. Taking just that action has gotten me to promote more of my business content on LinkedIn; it’s been amazing how much people have taken to some of the articles I’ve posted recently (though I’m not holding my breath; I’ve had success on LinkedIn in previous years, and eventually they adjust their algorithm against you). None of this happens if I hadn’t had my mind open to trying a couple of new things.
5. You’ve got to do the work!
One of the major criticisms of the movie The Secret is that it seemed to be telling people that all they had to do was think about things and those things would come to them. Well, if one only paid attention to the visuals that’s what they’d have gotten out of it.
Yet, on more than one occasion in the movie, someone said you couldn’t just sit around thinking about things and hope they’d come. You had to work towards what you wanted, while being open for it to manifest itself in ways you weren’t expecting.
The thing that helped get me going after Mom passed was trying to decide what my overall goal was. I came to the reality that not only do I want to stay self employed, but I want to be home more often… almost always if possible (except for those traveling speaking engagements). That meant I had to come up with a way to get people to come to me, it had to be something I was good at that not too many people know about, and I needed it to be a recurring prospect.
I came up with an initial idea, then talked to a couple of people and the idea slightly shifted into what my training site is now. I know that unless it takes off like a rocket to space, I’m going to need a specific number of people who’ll sign up for the site on a yearly basis just to survive, and that I’ll have to keep up with it in content, coding issues and outreach to build camaraderie with my audience. I’ll have to fall back on some of my leadership skills, but since I’ve written two books on leadership and have written over a thousand articles on leadership, I think I’ve got that one covered already.
Almost nothing comes to us just because we consider it, let alone just think about it. The law of attraction, or whatever you want to call it, isn’t something sitting there waiting for you to acknowledge it. For those of you more biblical or religious than I am (which means almost all of you), I’ll use the phrase “you reap what you sow” (actually, it says “a man reaps what he sows”, but we’re more educated than those who wrote the Bible). Call it what you will; overall, it’s the same thing.
Anyway, those are my thoughts on the law of attraction and motivation; what are yours? Are you ready to try to do something like what I’ve talked about, or are you going to wait around to see what happens next without any guidance or positivity? It’s up to you; come on, let’s do this thing!
I have to admit I was one of those people who misinterpreted the book (I never saw the movie.) I was too happy to attribute certain things to LOA, when they made sense; but also to blame myself when it didn’t seem to work.
I’m not here to argue the merits; I’m just pointing out that I believe you’ve taken the proper, pragmatic approach to a very popular concept. It boils down to mindset.
The flip side of tip five is that you have to be doing the correct actions. As long as you get that part right, all of your mindset preparations will help your correct efforts bear fruit.
(Tim Ferriss succinctly refers to the difference as “busyness” vs. “business”)
Keep on truckin’, Mitch!
Cheers,
Mitch
Thanks Mitch. True, taking proper action always works best. And yet, I also believe that positive action of any kind at least helps ones mindset and helps them to concentrate better on things. Back in 2004 I was kind of floundering until I got a small contract fixing this lady’s computer, which had nothing to do with health care. However, it made me feel good, I broke out of a funk and started doing some other positive things, and a week later I had a great paying gig. Sure, it doesn’t happen all the time but often enough something good comes out of feeling good.
In our system the LOA is called Karma. I am a strong believer in it and I have experienced its effect any number of times,
I have to admit that I’ve treated the word “karma” as more of a pejorative for people who have bad things happen to them after they’ve done bad things, which isn’t quite fair, is it? I’m going to have to think about that…
A simple but effective treatise on the subject. Ignore the English. It is a poor translation but the message is loud and clear.
https://www.amazon.com/Theory-Karma-Hirabhai-Thakkar-English/dp/B09KH3CYSG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1K3EQ9HA2RSKD&keywords=theory+of+karma&qid=1657106038&s=books&sprefix=Theory+Of+Karma%2Cstripbooks%2C252&sr=1-1
That costs a bit much for a book I’ll admit I probably wouldn’t read. lol If it costs that much, it’s probably not as simple as that.
After reading “The Secret” book, I got a more precise concept on the low of attraction. Also, a positive approach or action helps me keep encouraging myself and allows me to focus on more valuable things and my goals. This is such a great article.
Thanks. I love positive messages, and they can be helpful in getting us to keep pushing forward.
Such an enlightening read. I agree wholeheartedly with the idea of attracting what we feel and think. Our mental state has so much to do with how we see and perceive things, and respond to them. So it’s that much more important to maintain mental peace and happiness to ensure we reap goodness throughout.
I agree with that assessment. One can’t be in a bad mental state and achieve the things they want in life. Even if one doesn’t reach everything they want, they’ll reach more good things than bad with a positive attitude.
I’ve never read the book or watched the Secret, but I have watched a ton of videos on YouTube about it and find it to be a very real phenomenon. Your article made some points very clear to me in a way that is easy to understand and put into practice. Wishing you the best!
Thanks for the comment. You can actually find two versions of the Secret on YouTube, one the first 20 minutes and the other, if it’s still up, the entire movie. The idea in general is both attraction and intention. It’s not easy to do all the time, but luckily I always come back to it to help push me forward.
Thank you, Mitch, for sharing this great information on the 5 Rules of the Law of Attraction! I appreciate how thorough and well-written your article is – it’s definitely given me a lot to think about! Thank you for all the helpful advice – I’m looking forward to putting these tips into practice and seeing some amazing results!
Thanks for reading and commenting Amber. I try offering motivational advice when I can; I certainly need it as much as anyone else. 🙂